1 April 2000 MO-Abstracts "Read-Only" List FUNERAL ORATION OF EMMA TIEDE By Oscar B. Elam, at the home of John Tiede, Billings, MO I have known this family intimately for more than fifteen years, and have been called by Mother Tiede one of her boys. This January 12, 1914 at the home where she resided since 1890 with her good husband, John Tiede, we have gathered to pay our last respects to Emma Tiede. Born in Baden, Germany, on the Rhine, July 31, a daughter of George Engel, she came to America with her parents at the age of thirteen years, landing at New Orleans. With her parents she went from New Orleans to the State of Iowa. She resided with her parents on a farm in Iowa until she married Jacob Hubert in 1862. Within a few weeks Jacob Hubert was accidentally killed while at work with a sawmill. Jacob and Mary Huber, twin children, were born of this marriage February 12, 1863. Mary was buried in Springfield, Oct., 1, 1884. She was never married. Jacob is a farmer near La Crosse, Kansas. On March 16, 1864, Mrs. Tiede, who was then Emma Hubert, was in Cedar Rapids, Iowa, a domestic. She was 22 years of age. John Tiede was 24 years of age. He resided in Benton county, Iowa. The marriage of Mr. and Mrs. Tiede occurred on this date in Fairfax, Iowa. For nearly 20 years after the marriage Mr. and Mrs. Tiede resided on the farm in Iowa. In the State of Iowa Charley Tiede, John Tiede, Jr., Louisa Tiede, Arthur Tiede, Martin Tiede, Adolph Tiede, Henry Tiede, Ed and Willie Tiede were the fruits of this marriage. Ralph Tiede was born in Missouri. Louisa and Arthur both died in infancy. All of the other children are living and married; and except Jacob and Charley all reside within a few miles of the paternal home. 26 grand children survive her. The parents of Mr. and Mrs. Tiede died in the State of Iowa many years ago. Her brothers and sisters all still reside in Iowa. The brothers are Joe Engel, Jake Engel and Henry Engel. The sisters are Christina Engel, Mary Engel and Kate Kimm. When Mr. and Mrs. Tiede left Iowa they came to Billings, Missouri and after about two months became residents of Springfield. Their home in Springfield was continued for about six years. Mr. and Mrs. Tiede have since resided in Billings. In Billings, the husband was first in the general merchandise business and afterward for about sixteen years was widely known in the lumber business. In 1906 the lumber business was disposed of and the husband has not since been actively engaged in business, and the husband and wife have lived together more like young people than was possible in the younger days when both were struggling to rear their family and surround themselves with favorable circumstances and comfort. During the whole married life of Mr. and Mrs. Tiede they have lived very close together and have shared each other's burdens and joys and sorrow and blessing. This Mother and this Father have devoted their lives, their minds and their hearts very largely to the rearing of their family, and the earning and the saving of the competency for their declining years. Starting with nothing but strong hearts and hands and their love for each other they have reared a family of sturdy men, eight in number to manhood. All strong in body and mind, and clean in habits and industrious and frugal and exemplary men. Every man of them has married a good wife and has a comfortable home and has prospered in material things. The relationship of this Father and Mother to their children and to their children's wives was both cordial and beautiful. Only a few weeks ago I was in the home when one of the sons and his wife were departing for their home only a few miles distant, and I saw the son's wife give Mother Tiede and Father Tiede an affectionate kiss at the parting. Such demonstration shows how close and kindly were the relations between mother and daughter. Her son's wives were to her as her own daughters. A beautiful custom of the family is another illustration of the intimate relationship among them and their kindly regards for one another. On each recurring birthday anniversary of Mother and Father Tiede and on holiday occasions the children and their wives and their families gathered around the old fireside at Billings and celebrated the event. This has been the custom of the family for years. So closely are the hearts of this family entwined that when an injury occurs to one all suffer, and when happiness occurs to one, all rejoice. The tastes of Mrs. Tiede were domestic. She loved her home, her husband, her children, and the families of her children supremely. She gave her life chiefly to these objects, she found within her home and her family full scope for her activities. She was of that generous self-sacrificing class that might properly be called homebodies. She gave her life, her strength, her mind, and her heart in making her home the haven of peace and rest for those who came her way. If something went wrong with this one or that one quick sympathy and sympathy of a practical nature was evidenced by Mrs. Tiede. She gave not only words of kindness but supplied aid as well. In these matters Mrs. Tiede and her husband went always hand in hand. It is about five years since the stroke of paralysis came to Mrs. Tiede, impairing the usefulness of her body. She got better after the first stroke which came in Sept. 1898 and continued so until about a month ago. Since the last stroke of paralysis came, Mrs. Tiede has been surrounded by her own children and their families, and has had her husband with her continually. Her son, Charley Tiede, who is engaged in the lumber business in Enterprise, Kansas and his family, have been with her for three weeks. The other children of Mr. and Mrs. Tiede have all resided so near to the home of the parents that they have been able to come and go at will. All have been not only willing, but able and ready to do any and every thing that could possibly benefit this wife and mother. She died Saturday night, Jan. 10, 1914, shortly before midnight in the arms of her husband. In her declining years, Mrs. Tiede was surrounded with all the comforts that can come from physical surroundings and the love and affection of her family and those others with whom her life was spent. It is usual when one has passed the river we call "Death" to speak of the two fold nature of life, the spiritual nature and the physical nature and to dwell largely on the spiritual. Mrs. Tiede was not united with any of the local churches, but was a Lutheran from childhood and so was her husband. It is written in Holy Writ that "by their fruits ye shall know them." In other words, I think the meaning of the writer may be expressed accurately by saying the things people do are as full of expression as the things people say. Mrs. Tiede left surviving her a monument of her life work, a united family who love her and love each other and evidenced that fact in every way to benefit. The mother is necessarily the very keystone of the arch in family building. The love of the mother is reflected in the love of the child. The family life is reflected in the community life. The same industry and thrift practiced by this good woman and her husband, the same open-heartedness and open-handedness for those in distress, and for all charitable purposes evidenced in the life of this good woman bears fruit in the lives of her children, and will pass to their descendants. ...... This piece has been shared with us by a kind reader, Lorene, at fort@paola-online.net . Of this piece, Lorene has said that she has not been able to find the location of the newspaper yet, but she has guessed that it must be from the Billings newspaper at the time of Emma's death.