thank you Sally. I know that this happens all the time, but just never knew it was going to do to me. One just never knows. And in my moment of weakness, I accepted the offer of help, and just had no inkling at all that such would transpire. Really aprpeciate your kind words. Cous Pat In a message dated 12/14/2008 1:07:04 P.M. Pacific Standard Time, [email protected] writes: Ah Pat, I can relate alittle in a small way. When my Dad was dying, his eldest brother (the stuffed shirt from CT) came out to visit..ah yes visit...Daddy was two weeks from dying I think. This uncle took it upon himself to clean out family stuff which was not really his to do..but he burned so much history from the Mills/Hutchings side of the family. BURNED history, burned letters home from my uncle who was in the US Maps department and behind enemy lines in Germany doing that job, burned history of his mom's family..and left my sister and I with nothing. Daddy hadn't discussed family with us and I was too young to ask..I think I would be very nasty to this man if he was alive. If I had recognized what he was doing, I could have put that stuff in the car and taken it to a friend of my sister's for safe keeping. Unfortunately I was in too much of a quandry..and didn't know enough. So I understand the heart ache and the frustration and sadness. I also did not talk to him again for about 20 years and then it was to be civil. He is the one who missed out in that relationship. Fortunately there is alot written about my Mills side and Hutchings side, but some of the gritty stuff...well I would like to have had that. sally ----- Original Message ----- From: <[email protected]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Sunday, December 14, 2008 12:54 PM Subject: Re: [MILLS] Mills-Ambrose Mills - Phalby Williams > Hi Jeanne > > A person named Joanne sent me this informatin in an email back in 2006. > > I believe I also read it somewhere on the net and or on microfilms at one > time, way back when I began my quest for my family MILLS of Dayton, > Montgomery > Co. OH USA. > > At that time, I was would just seize any MILLS related items and made note > of them. > > Put down their names in my spiral shorthand note book. Course now, all > those are gone. My darling family members came in and "CLEANED" my > apartment for > me one weekend. > > They had volunteered to assist me, since I had had an auto accident, was > in > terrible pain and could not walk nor basically move as such. > > But when I got back home, I was just so over whelmed with all that had > been > TAKEN TO THE DUMP > all the explanation I ever got from them. > > THEY decided what "THEY" thought" I should need to continue living on in > my > present apartment. > Needless to say, I have extremely little to none further contact with him > or > his side of the family. > > I never have been so distraught in all my life. > > My heart was broken, and never will be mended. > > As side from that, that is where I found that information. Again, it was > a > long time ago, ca 1984 or so. > > Microfilms from the LDS Family History Library Center in West Los Angeles, > CA. when I lived down there. > > So sad to lose ones basic life in so short a time. That is, genealogy > life. > > Wish I could be more specific as to actual details, source references. > > All I have now, of course, is what was on a disk that miraculously did not > get thrown out to the DUMP. > > Managed to get it to upload to my computer. > > Oh yes. That was the 2nd shoe that dropped. > > No one had any inkling that my hard drive would crash either. day after > christmas following the CLEANING, > > it CROAKED. > > So had to wait for a replacement. And beg borrow or steal what I could for > software to get it working again. > > Am still in the process of rebuilding my basic every day working MILLS > file. > > Yes, they even through out all my software disks and floppies that were my > backups. > > They had absolutely no idea nor what they were doing. Just pitched and > tossed. > > Now it is all "Catch UP" type of thing I am trying to do now. > > Slowly but surely, I will try to post what little information I have > gleaned > over time, who I wrote to, who responded, when, where how, what, etc. and > put it "Out There" once I get it in some semblance that makes sense to > others. > > My family does not understand my drive nor energy I have put forth. They > have never been interested, nor care. Thank the lord that back in January > 2005, > my brother did relent and gave up his DNA for me to get tested, otherwise, > > woudl not even have that to fall back on either. I just thank my "lucky > Stars' that he did do it for me. > > He must have been drunk or something that he did it. Otherwise, if i asked > today, well, lets just say we hardly speak anymore. Save for black mail > of > each other to do things for each other. > > I guilt them into a few things, and he cries on my shoulder, telephone, > and > gets me to come and visit for have a diner or breakfast once in a while. > at > least to touch base, as we are all the family that each of us has left. > > our children visit rarely, and are so busy in their own lives, as in all > cases today's way of life. They have to keep after it, or their jobs are > gone > before they can blink. > > Now with Mr. O and his socialistic type of mentality, maybe even then all > be > gone before we know it. > > TAKE FROM THE RICH AND GIVE TO THE POOR. Oh boy, what a concept. NEVER > WORKED BEFORE > > and will not work now. No matter how you spin it. > > Just anarchy in the end. > > SOrry, will get off my soap box. > > Take care and welcome to the wonderful world of MILLS. > > Not sure how long you have been at it either. > > COus Pat > at least by surname, never know. > our ancestors have woven a web of such proportion you would not believe. I > constantly keep finding new MILLS family members, I have never come across > in > the past. > > So many MILLS, so little time. . . . . . . . . . . . > > > In a message dated 12/14/2008 10:35:54 A.M. Pacific Standard Time, > [email protected] writes: > > Pat: > > Ambrose Mills and Phalby Williams Mills are my husband's great great > grandparents. This Phalby is not the one that was married to Lavender > Mills. > > I did not know that John, son of Ambrose Mills and Anna Brown had a wife > named Phalby, or a wife named Honor. 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