All I have to say is AMEN.   Annette. ________________________________ From: Neysa <[email protected]> To: [email protected] Sent: Saturday, March 23, 2013 3:14 PM Subject: Re: [ML] Children Today Our daughter has raised her three (girl and two boys) to be respectful.  They can go anywhere, and if the adults get involved and they have to wait, they are quiet, talk between themselves,or listen to the adults and learn about something.  Our youngest is 8, he was in cub scouts.  I am not bragging but he was the best behaved child in any of their local groups.  Even the scout masters two boys were horrible. Our grandson quit cub scouts.  He wasn't learning anything as too much fooling around, and he lost interest.  He got the good sportsman's award for every year he was in cubs; and his brother did, too.  They get to go a lot of places with a lot of different people because they behave. There is one little girl in his class whose mother has spoiled her beyond belief.  One of the teachers told me so  far they have bargained with each other to avoid having her in their class.  She equals two brats!! Neysa   ----- Original Message -----   From: Shirley Sullivan   To: [email protected]   Sent: Saturday, March 23, 2013 2:20 PM   Subject: [ML] Children Today   I will add my two cents, first thing is children don't have to pay the consequences of their actions anymore. I remember my middle son, and two other boys on our street, took marker pens and wrote and drew on our neighbors curb. When I was informed of his actions, I filled a big pail with hot water, soap, and a little bleach, a big scrub brush and marched him down the street to apologize to Mrs Hayes, than he was to scrub the curb till it looked like it did before be deiced to decorate it, or till it got dark. He was lucky, about a hour worth scrubbing and it was clean, HE NEVER DID THAT AGAIN !!!!   In high school my daughter was excused from class and told to go to study hall (the Library), but instead she and a couple of her friends walked off campus (about a block away) and went to Yum-Yum Donut shop, well they were caught off campus,  and because they knew me, (I use to help them get out the school newspaper) they called me and told me, they were going to let her off with a warning, I said "what do you usually do" They said "they had to stayed after school for a hour, for two weeks" I told them, she had to face the consequences of her actions, so she stayed after school like all the others who were caught off campus with her, during school hours. SHE NEVER DID IT AGAIN !!   Only once did I feel a teacher was is the wrong, I didn't put the teacher down, or say I even thought they weren't fair, What I did say to my child was: you will go out in the world to work, and there will be all kinds of people out there, you will have to learn to get along with lots of fellow workers you don't agree with, you have to make your own way in this world !!!   I have a niece who is raising her children to lie, and she makes excuses for their bad behavior (I told her and she didn't like it) That our job is to teach our children how to get along, to be truthful, follow instructions, be fair, always be polite,  so they can go into the world, get a good job, and contribute to society. We must raise our children not to think they are special, and that they don't have to follow the rules, because when they leave home, those people they work for, will not think they are special, and won't accept their bad behavior. The success of a parent is when your child leaves home and makes a good life for them self. Of course our children aren't perfect, they make mistakes, but if they learn from mistakes, they go on and make a good life for them selves.   I have made my share of mistakes, I hope I have learned form them, because if I haven't learned by now I am going to end up all alone and very very sad !!!!   Sully, in Sunny California     http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm   -------------------------------   To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to [email protected] with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message