Martha, don't think about everything that you have to do. Take one thing a time or you will go nuts and don't look ahead so much. I am sure your mum has a hundred things going around in her mind to. Maybe sit and listen to each other. When and if she cries leave her alone so that she can cry hard and loud when she is alone. Peace of mind will come soon. Barb
Thank you Barb. She tells me over and over that he lunged forward and part of his body was off of the bed. She tried to lift him but couldn't. He took about two breaths and died. My son is an ER nurse. He said that sometimes when a person has a pulmonary embolus or a heart attack they do shift forward. I was afraid that the lunge forward caused his death but it didn't. It's still extremely hard for me to hear her relive this, but she needs to talk about it. Since he died at home, the sheriff's department had to investigate. They said all was okay and they didn't see anything out of the ordinary. I blamed myself for not being there. We often left them for a couple of hours at the time but always stayed in touch by phone. There would have been nothing that I could have done if I had been here and I am at peace with that but it still hurts me. The young sheriff's deputy questioned me as to why he wasn't in a nursing home where he could have been cared for. The constable is a very good friend of ours and jumped to my defense. The deputy called the sheriff who was a good friend to my dad. He told him the same thing. They both commented on how well he had been cared for. Martha ----- Original Message ----- From: Barbara Mangan <tipperboo12@gmail.com> To: MEMORY-LANE@rootsweb.com Sent: Mon, 10 Feb 2014 22:27:59 -0500 (EST) Subject: [ML] mother Martha, don't think about everything that you have to do. Take one thing a time or you will go nuts and don't look ahead so much. I am sure your mum has a hundred things going around in her mind to. Maybe sit and listen to each other. When and if she cries leave her alone so that she can cry hard and loud when she is alone. Peace of mind will come soon. Barb http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message