Yes, she needs to talk it out. My mom was with my brother and his wife when she was having alot of heart problems. She wanted to go home, my sister in law had took her into the Dr. and she was saying she wanted to move back home. It was maybe a quarter of a mile down the road. He looked at my sis in law and shook his head and she said well why don't you stay through the week end and then we will see how things are going. I think it was that night, I think she tried to get out of bed and just hit the floor. Big heart attack. They both ran in there, my brother had the training and was giving her mouth to mouth and doing the comprssions while his wife was on the phone with 911 but she was gone when she hit the floor. I think when they die at home they have to investigate as there are so many old people that are abused. Of course if they don't know you it can get a little sticky I imagine. I think they asked questions about moms death, I would imagine contacted the Dr. also. My dad just laid down on the couch and went to sleep. My poor mom wasn't sure what was going on at first, then she realized he wasn't breathing and called 911 and my brother to come. Poor mom, she kept telling me there wasn't any thing she could do and I knew that, but she was just in shock. But when you get old things happen. My husband is 84 and I am 82 so you don't know if you are going to wake up or not. Things will get better for her and you as time goes by. Louise ----- Original Message ----- From: "grandbanna" <grandbanna@hughes.net> To: <memory-lane@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, February 11, 2014 11:18 AM Subject: Re: [ML] mother > Thank you Barb. She tells me over and over that he lunged forward and > part of his body was off of the bed. She tried to lift him but couldn't. > He took about two breaths and died. My son is an ER nurse. He said that > sometimes when a person has a pulmonary embolus or a heart attack they do > shift forward. I was afraid that the lunge forward caused his death but it > didn't. It's still extremely hard for me to hear her relive this, but she > needs to talk about it. Since he died at home, the sheriff's department > had to investigate. They said all was okay and they didn't see anything > out of the ordinary. I blamed myself for not being there. We often left > them for a couple of hours at the time but always stayed in touch by > phone. There would have been nothing that I could have done if I had been > here and I am at peace with that but it still hurts me. The young > sheriff's deputy questioned me as to why he wasn't in a nursing home where > he could have been cared for. The constable! > > is a very good friend of ours and jumped to my defense. The deputy > called the sheriff who was a good friend to my dad. He told him the same > thing. They both commented on how well he had been cared for. > > Martha > > -----/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message