Read the whole email and this messages closes the whole thread on list. Stopped. I will put the entire list on moderate if needed. I am VERY upset that first thing everyone thought the worst of me. I've been assist admin or admin since Nov 2001. I care about the list, the people, their lives and their memories. They are important. The immediate slams at me when people don't know what happen, took me by surprise and I now wonder if I should even be here anymore. I'll have to think about it. My husband and his family are at my mother in laws bedside right now waiting for her to pass. She is much loved. I can't be there where I should. She's been failing since the weekend and the "come now" call came about an hour ago. Those messages should have come to me not the list. I did not know I had to write the list and explain that when I honored her request I wrote her and told her we would all miss her and to come back when she wanted. She would have been back before the first message yesterday morning was sent but I checked email about half hour before she wrote. I will be sending remove from list RootsWeb messages for all the stuff that has been sent the last two days. They don't belong in our archives. You click the link it will show the message and accept. It will happen within the next week. First missing messages: I have no more idea than you where your message went if it does not show in the archives or get stuck in my tool box. A email from Barb did, asking me where hers could be. The person that for the last years who always lands in my box is Doug's because he doesn't address it to the list so that RootsWeb will send it-explained below and I always send it along. First! Make sure your web mail is set to save your sent messages. If you do not see it in your email..not talking about gmail people they never get it. Check the list archives for it: http://lists.rootsweb.ancestry.com/index/other/Miscellaneous/MEMORY-LANE.htm l This link will take you there. If you don't see it write me. I will get a notice if it is sent to tools and send it on or back to you if you need to redo something. If it does neither, archives or my tools, I can't make it appear. Send me your copy, just hit forward so I see the date, time, address etc. Maybe we can figure out why and have you try again. Memory-Lane has a set of tools, like all the RootsWeb lists. Subscribers get their emails caught in the tool box at times. Sometimes RootsWeb will send a member a reject letter to a member and never send a copy of the email to the admin even though the message is sent as having come from the List Admin. We hear about it for the first time when someone writes why did you reject my email? That annoys all List Admins. We have no clue what happened or why because it never makes our tool boxes or our emails. A few things will send your email to my tools. One is sending to undisclosed recpt's. RootsWeb does not send these to the list they send it to the admin for review. Doug can confirm that all the updates he has sent to the list over the past couple of years he sends in this manner. I always forward them to the list. When he answers one of you from the list it goes straight to the list without my help. I have never asked him to stop and send a separate copy for us. He sends them out like this so he can send to family, friends, AIF etc without all the names showing is my belief. I'd rather send it than have him leave us out. If you send to more than 3 names and/or lists I think is right, it will come to my box I forget the exact number. Those two reasons are to protect members from spam messages that might come from a subscriber. Sending an email larger than I have the list set for will send it to the box. For example leaving the whole digest in your writing to the list. The html will make that happen too, many many times. I have our list to the standard amount used for all my lists. An email to the list was caught in the box from Barb. I answered her on it instead of writing her back from my personal email. The email said Margy .and asked about her missing post. I saw no reason to post that to the list. It was addressed to me. I am never allowed to add to a post like that and post it to the list. Your emails belong to you and if I added a word to them and sent them I would be violating your copy write. I wrote her a note and pasted the email she sent in the box, deleted what the box said and sent my her my answer. I hit reject to send it to her not thinking how it would look. MY MISTAKE. I send back like this to many of my other lists and explain how to post it so it goes to list, mostly because they are people who post helpful finds to the lists, they copy and paste web pages whole and think they should go through and other stuff. They still do it, 10 years I've been on one person about this. I always copy the email I send back because many do not save their sent mail or send so much mail they don't which email has a problem. It's not included in the notice. Many times they get a page back of html with a few words in between. So if something from the list gets stuck again for whatever reason I will send it through or write on my email . I have realized I've never used that way before here for anyone and no wonder it caused confusion. If you have a question to me about someone/something please write me memory-lane-admin@rootsweb.com or mbousman7@cox.net and please put a high importance Flag on it and a subject in caps that will grab me. Barb did write me but I missed it and she sent the email to me to the list and I found it in the box. Not her fault. Margy