It's great that she does have an interest in these new things you mention. Hopefully then, it's just a matter of rest and settling in to a new routine at your home. Lisa > -----Original Message----- > From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane- > bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of grandbanna > Sent: Saturday, February 08, 2014 5:21 PM > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Subject: Re: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > Lisa, > Mother does have a visiting nurse who stayed about an hour and a half > with her yesterday. I hired a sitter today while my husband and I ran > a couple of errands and went to a funeral. Since the sitter was > someone different, she seemed to enjoy her a lot. I bought Mother a > couple of new outfits to wear when we go to church and other places and > when I gave them to her, her face lit up. She isn't as exhausted and > I think sleeping at night is doing her good. There isn't a senior > center where I live but I will check online for support groups. Thank > you so much. > Martha > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Lisa Lepore <lisa.lepore2@gmail.com> > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Sent: Sat, 08 Feb 2014 13:38:14 -0500 (EST) > Subject: Re: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > Although your mother hasn't had much rest, sleeping all day is not > good. > I'm sure she is going through the grieving process, and is probably > depressed. > > You should try to figure out some kind of routine that will work in > your house. > There are probably chores that she can do while sitting - helping to > prepare food, folding laundry, planning meals. > > Maybe you could just ask her - can you help me do this chore? If she > sees that you need her to help, she might come around on her own. > > Even though she has pain, she should still move around some. Maybe you > can encourage her to walk up and down the hallway, or make a loop > around the house when she is up for the bathroom. > > If she doesn't seem to be improving after a couple of weeks, you should > contact her doctor. If her doctor doesn't seem interested in the > overall situation, get a referral to a geriatric doctor - someone who > specializes in treating the elderly. > > You can also look for elderly support groups either online or in your > community. Do you have a visiting nurse or something like that? Also if > you have a senior center near you, they may have some resources. > > Lisa > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane- > > bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of grandbanna > > Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:44 PM > > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > > Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > > > > > As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is > > now with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and > > day so she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as > > they were in their home, she was up and going but now she has set > down > > and doesn't get up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. > > She would sleep all day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard > > time emotionally, so I know she must be dealing with even more than I > > am. I know she needs to rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't > > know when to start encouraging her to be active again. She has > > neuropathy in her legs and says she would get up if her legs didn't > > hurt so bad. Medication doesn't help. I could ask her doctor but he > > would just give her another pill. She needs something to keep her > > occupied. I have that, but she is totally removed from her familiar > > surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as to how I can help her. > > I'm sorry since t! > > his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have > > wise advice. > > > > Martha > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE- > request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in > the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE- > request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in > the subject and the body of the message