I'll try to answer as to myself. I was only 60 when my husband died and I had my health then. I kept very active, mostly in church activities, but I enjoyed my work and made many friends.Then, about 10 years ago, I started having feet problems and that curtailed a lot of my activities. Then it got to the point that my daughter told me to sell my mobile home and move up close to her, which I did. But, for the first time I moved into an apt. I didn't know anyone, it was hard finding a church home and I felt miserable. After I finally found a church home, I enjoyed those people and did as much as I physically could. The loneliness got a lot better and the doctor gave me a mild antidepressant pill. That helped me cope with "things". She moved away and finally she told me I needed to move close to her again. That meant moving to a different apt and not knowing anyone. I went through the same depression again. After I found a church home, and the people were so friendly, I fitted in as much as I could. By then, my feet were really an issue. I only go to church on Sunday mornings and sometimes go out to lunch with the ladies, but I'm learning to cope with the different issues I have. Since I no longer have my own car, I can't go when I want to which really depressed me at first. All I can say is, each change in your life is hard to accept at first, but you tell yourself this is the way it is and you learn to cope with it. You make the best of each situation. I stay on the internet, I don't write as much as I used to but I put my two cents in every so often. It keeps me connected. You need friends, no matter where you may find them. I'm on several lists, then I joined several political lists so I keep up on the issues and don't feel like a dummy when someone mentions an issue. I watch movies at other times just to have something to do. At no time have I felt like suicide. I figure God will take me when He's ready for me. I often wonder why I'm still here but that's out of my hands. I'm not God and don't want to act like Him. This is how I've gotten through each change in ;my life and it hasn't always been easy. Each change is hard to go through but with the grace of God, I've pulled through.Emma > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Date: Mon, 21 Mar 2011 00:32:28 -0500 > From: askgranny@juno.com > Subject: Re: [ML] Brotherly love.. > > How do you make it ? Friends ? Reading ? Gardening ? I've always > thought that if older people knew there would be no punishment in the > hereafter there would be a lot more suicides....At 74 I dread the > physical limitations I face. Hubby is a year younger, and can still do > several things I have trouble with. I'm closest to my younger son and he > doesn't take care of himself physically and lets his family worry him too > much...I dread the fact that he may go first. He's said we have to die at > the same time...good plan....Jeannie T > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > On Sun, 20 Mar 2011 23:51:33 -0500 GWNET@webtv.net (I W) writes: > > I WILL BE 82 IN JUNE AND I HAVE OUTLIVED MY HUSBAND AND BOTH OUR > > SONS=IT > > IS A VERY LONESOME ROAD TO TRAVEL=== > > GENE > > IN TX > > > > > > > > > ____________________________________________________________ > Penny Stock Jumping 3000% > Sign up to the #1 voted penny stock newsletter for free today! > http://thirdpartyoffers.juno.com/TGL3141/4d86e29aba8dc16b5em06duc > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message