I watched as my younger brother died a painful death from throat cancer...tried to live as long as he could because of concerns for his older wife...If it were me I would off myself before it got as bad as his did. If God doesn't want me to off myself he should cure me...I don't see the point in hanging on and suffering if death is the only end...It irks me when folks spend all day getting their relatives with Alzheimers to eat..etc..Hubby and I have really strict Living Wills.... I am sorry you and your family are having to suffer so much......He's a tough bugger, and I know you'll miss him...I pray for you often...LOVE Jeannie T ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ On Sat, 19 Mar 2011 11:57:30 -0700 (PDT) annette tucker <annelovespugs@yahoo.com> writes: > > If my memory is right I first said that my brother was expected to leave this world on January first 2010. Well believe it or not he is still here but just barely. We have been told that there is no more that can be done for him now and the end is definitely near. ____________________________________________________________ Groupon™ Official Site 1 ridiculously huge coupon a day. Get 50-90% off your city's best! http://thirdpartyoffers.juno.com/TGL3141/4d858488d09f6156edm06duc
Yes Jeanie. T. I feel the same way about life and the lingering on. But i have found in life we all have to leave a certain date and time. I do not have the answer but i always told my children plus i tell my grand children and great grand children. When we are born we are born on a certain day and time. But God has a little Gold book that also tells him what time and date we will come home to him. You can bet the first question out of their mouth? Yep your right!! Where does he keep it?? But oh how i hate to see people hurting. When my oldest and last sibling died it was three times as hard for me because all of our lives she treated us younger kids as aliens and she never wanted any thing to do with us. But her going home time was any day now because she was dying of cancer. Also i had done every thing i could for her plus she had 9 children and her husband passed just six months ago. But when her son took her to FGO hospital he called me and told me and i said O.K. Will go right up and he said " Vi, She said don't foget me".I left ca fifteen minutes later. Now my sister Marie and i had Dorothy our handi capped sister. So when we got to fargo i said we should pick Dorothy up which we did. But Dorothy did not know about the cancer and when she asked why Marie was in the hospital i told her she had surgery on her knee!! Close one that was because when we walked in she looked at her legs and one had a bandage on it and Dorothy asked her if it hurt and she said " A little bit Dorothy but i am so glad you came". Then Dorothy had a way of standing 6 feet tall when she is not five feet tall. Later Allen Took Dorothy home about six blocks from the hospital and i told him he could go home as i was staying. Marie got her supper and it was roast pork and she chewed on that piece of pork for close to ca 20 minutes. Finally i got kinda scared and notified the nurse and she came in and i told her how long she had that meat in her mouth and she went to take it out of her mouth and Marie put her hand up and said i am chewing it well. So the RN just shrugged her shoulders and i said thank you. Then it was bedtime and i pointed out her door to a couch and said i am going to sleep out there if you want me just holler. She sat way up in bed to make sure that couch was there and then said O.K. till morning. Went into her bedroom ca 4:30Am and she was smoking a cigarette and i got just mad to see her there with no one watching her but i talked with her till she finished her ciggy. Then said Marie i need to go wash my face but will be right back and she gave me a look of real shock and said you can smoke in here. I know Marie but i do not smoke any more and then she laughed and said guess i forgot. Well i always forget and you know that and she said " You know you never really forgot that much tho". I wanted to cry because she could not say i am sorry and that was her closest way of saying it and it was also the last words she ever spoke to me!! When i came back into her room she was in a coma and it was close to 5:ooAM, Then the RN told me she was supposed to have brest surgery at 6:30AM and i said no she is not. She got a human face on and said you better get one of her children up here then and i said you mean they would operate on a woman in a coma. Its been known to happen she said. Well bang i was on phone calling her closest daughter and she got there at ca 5:45 and then the whole family came and you never seen so much family for her. Well some time around 9:00 to 9:15 two nurses came to turn here and she passed while they were turning her. But her best woman friend told us they gave her Morphine an extra push which was some thing none of us or Marie could do. But may God go with her. Viola.
My husband died just last November from ALS or Lou Gehrig's disease. He had been deteriorating over the last year without any diagnosis to explain it. Finally at the beginning of November he was told of his disease and his way of dealing with it was to stop eating. He had no will to live as he had seen the life story of Lou Gehrig and knew there was no hope. I had spoken to the family doctor and explained what was happening. He said to me "respect his wishes as this is his only option left to him". He didn't linger long as he died on November 19 and I feel he is in a much better place and the suffering has ended. I have a living will and have a DNR stipulation. Diane On Sun, Mar 20, 2011 at 12:38 AM, <askgranny@juno.com> wrote: > I watched as my younger brother died a painful death from throat > cancer...tried to live as long as he could because of concerns for his > older wife...If it were me I would off myself before it got as bad as his > did. If God doesn't want me to off myself he should cure me...I don't see > the point in hanging on and suffering if death is the only end...It irks > me when folks spend all day getting their relatives with Alzheimers to > eat..etc..Hubby and I have really strict Living Wills.... > > I am sorry you and your family are having to suffer so much......He's a > tough bugger, and I know you'll miss him...I pray for you often...LOVE > Jeannie T > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ >