Although your mother hasn't had much rest, sleeping all day is not good. I'm sure she is going through the grieving process, and is probably depressed. You should try to figure out some kind of routine that will work in your house. There are probably chores that she can do while sitting - helping to prepare food, folding laundry, planning meals. Maybe you could just ask her - can you help me do this chore? If she sees that you need her to help, she might come around on her own. Even though she has pain, she should still move around some. Maybe you can encourage her to walk up and down the hallway, or make a loop around the house when she is up for the bathroom. If she doesn't seem to be improving after a couple of weeks, you should contact her doctor. If her doctor doesn't seem interested in the overall situation, get a referral to a geriatric doctor - someone who specializes in treating the elderly. You can also look for elderly support groups either online or in your community. Do you have a visiting nurse or something like that? Also if you have a senior center near you, they may have some resources. Lisa > -----Original Message----- > From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane- > bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of grandbanna > Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:44 PM > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > > As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is > now with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and > day so she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as > they were in their home, she was up and going but now she has set down > and doesn't get up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. > She would sleep all day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard > time emotionally, so I know she must be dealing with even more than I > am. I know she needs to rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't > know when to start encouraging her to be active again. She has > neuropathy in her legs and says she would get up if her legs didn't > hurt so bad. Medication doesn't help. I could ask her doctor but he > would just give her another pill. She needs something to keep her > occupied. I have that, but she is totally removed from her familiar > surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as to how I can help her. > I'm sorry since t! > his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have > wise advice. > > Martha

Good morning everyone It rained off and on most of yesterday, we also got some rain overnight, into the early morning. It's cloudy out there right now, with the sun is peaking in out of the clouds, every now and than. They say more rain coming, I hope so, we need all we can get. It snowed up at our cabin, I don't know how much, but everything looks white, trees are full of snow !!! Watched Jay Leno say good-by last night, after 22 years on late night TV. I haven't watched him that long, only since I can't seem to sleep anymore. I will miss him, I do like Jimmy Fallen, but he is not of my generation, and I don't always get his jokes, and skits, will have to see how it goes with Jimmy. We'll watch the Winter Olympics for the next week or so, I have always liked Ice skating, Ice dancing, and a few of the other events, just hoping there are no terrorist attacks. From TV news, I have seen that some of the Hotels are not finished, the water should not be drunk, and some conditions are deplorable. I don't remember this happening at any other Olympics, do you ??? I was thinking about when we were children, what did we play with ?? We didn't have the number of toys children do today, we had to use our imaginations a lot of the time. I remember playing grocery store, my mother saved me empty packages of food, I would line them up on a card table, and pretend I was the grocery clerk, we would make money, by cutting our paper and printing MONEY $1.00 OR CUT OUT A CIRCLE AND PRINTING 5 CENTS, 10 CENTS, 25 CENTS, I used it over and over, till it fell apart. We also played SCHOOL a lot !! I loved paper Dolls, I kept them in old shoe boxes, my grandmother would help me cut out their clothes, I got real good with the scissors, could cut out their clothes almost as good as my grandmother. Of course I played with the two goats across the street, I would brush their coats, (they liked it) but I had to be careful with them, they would sometimes try to buck me, I never really got bucked, but kept my eye on where they were at all times. I loved to climb trees, hike in the hills, played in a big empty lot across the street from our house, and of course my best friend lived in the house right next to us, FAY, when she moved up north, my heart broke. All my life I have always had a best girl friend, someone to confide in, someone to tell all of the secrets wishes you have in your heart. Now here I am, everyone of the women who were my best friends, have passed on now. I do have one girl friend who lives up in Utah, but that's a little far to go for lunch !!! Speaking of lunch, I need to go in and see if I have anything to make for breakfast, I do have some crescents from Costco, maybe scrambled eggs, with a little ham, and some cheddar cheese ??? We'll SEE Have a good day everyone !!!! Sully, in cloudy and cool California Sully

Thank you so much Marilyn. I will do that. -Martha ----- Original Message ----- From: marilyn E B <marilyneb@gmail.com> To: Memory Lane <memory-lane@rootsweb.com> Sent: Fri, 07 Feb 2014 12:49:26 -0500 (EST) Subject: Re: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please Martha, while I have not commented you are in my thoughts and prayers. The only other suggestion I would make is when the time is right, help her to reconnect with her old friends. As we get older, old friends are hard to find but they are the ones who best understand our memories and our ways. Marilyn On Fri, Feb 7, 2014 at 11:11 AM, grandbanna wrote: > I knew you all would have good advice. Thank you for helping me. I am > still very tearful and as you said, Doug, the weather is awful and we can't > get outside so we are basically shut in until possibly sometime next week. > I am not one to stay in the house so I'm dealing with my own challenges > through all this and that makes it more difficult to help Mother. Yes, she > does have a certain amount of dementia. She knows the day and time and > can remember to do the things she has done repetitively for months but her > short and long term memory are both bad and have been for some time. She > once liked to do search-a-word puzzles but she can't see well any more. > She enjoys looking through her old pictures (the ones the ex > daughter-in-law hasn't stolen) but she can't tell me who most of them are > any more. She can't be left alone for any length of time so she's living > with me now. She has to have time to acclimate to my house and feel at > home. The last couple of years have bee! > n rough on all of us but on her most of all. Daddy hasn't slept at night > in 35 years and he kept her awake so she has her days and nights mixed up. > He had spine surgery two years ago that basically left him unable to help > himself at all. She waited on him hand and foot. Then he had a couple of > small strokes which affected his speech. His mind was very sharp but he got > to the point that he was demanding and would even curse at her and accuse > her of not wanting to help him. I never could get it across to him that she > needed to sleep. All his fussing etc, is in her mind at night now. She's > reliving it. The doctor did give her something to calm her at night and I > think it is helping a little. She is also taking an anti-depressant. > Daddy was the music director in our church for fifty years. I played the > piano for him during that time. He was also a deacon since the 1960's. He > was a good man. My sweet Mother was always behind the scenes, quietly > taking care of everything ! > and everyone. She neglected herself to provide for others. Our son-i > n-law is our pastor and he's been very good to Mother. She will be able > to go to church with us now for the first time in two years. I know it > will all work out. I just wanted to know if I was moving in the right > direction. > > Martha > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Doug Crim > To: memory-lane > Sent: Fri, 07 Feb 2014 08:07:07 -0500 (EST) > Subject: Re: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > Martha, as Grace said, your Mom just needs more time. There is nothing you > can do for her now except to be there and give her hugs. It hasn't been > very long since I lost my wife and I miss her dearly. I will miss her for > a very long time. That's just how it is. From now on, it is up to Mom. > I have a slight advantage because my wife had been so very sick for so > long. I am now realizing that I actually began the transition many months > ago. My biggest problem now is my kids. I think they are convinced I'm > going to go nuts out here on the ranch without anyone to talk to. They > don't realize that I enjoy the quiet and solitude. My other biggest > problem right now is the weather. Warm and sunny Texas hasn't been very > warm and sunny. I can hardly wait to get back on my tractor and get back > to work around the ranch. It is not my nature to not be doing something. > I have said before that even if nothing else breaks or goes wrong, I'll > still have enough to keep me busy for a lifetime. > My advice for you is to be patient. Let Mom work thru her grief at her own > pace. She'll be okay. > > Doug > > > On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 10:00 PM, grace gathman wrote: > > > If it has only been a week since her husband of many years passed away > she > > really hasn't worked through the first stage of grief--she really does > need > > a little more time and space--even if that space is within herself. Do > you > > have a pastor who she is close to--just holding some ones hand and > talking > > out her feelings would help. She has a lot to process and it does take > > time. If you have a hospice organization in your area, even if they > weren't > > involved with your father they have wonderful grief volunteers. Does she > > like music? Listening to hymns and songs that are meaningful to her might > > help her work through these first weeks of her loss. You are right that > > there isn't much medicine that works for neuropathy, but keeping her legs > > elevated might help some. Both of you need time and love of others these > > first hard weeks. Does she knit or do any handicraft that might give her > a > > goal to work toward? You both will be in my prayers. Grace > > > > > > On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 8:22 PM, Neysa wrote: > > > > > Been there, Martha. And I didn't realize what was going on. Mom took > > > care of Dad until he went into a nursing home; then she visited > everyday. > > > When he died, suddenly she had nothing to do. Had given up all her > > > activities to take care of him and his problems. Her sister came to > live > > > with her, which I thought was a good thing, but the sister didn't want > to > > > go anywhere or do anything. Sister didn't drive, so that was left to > > Mom. > > > > > > Actually she was still "alone" with no one to do anything with. For a > > > while she did take them out riding but soon she was tired again...and > > even > > > after we brought them over here and after Mom came to live with us, she > > had > > > lost any desire to do anything but watch TV. In her case she was going > > > into dementia, which no one could do anything about. > > > > > > I do wish (hind-sight) that I had found someone who could have told me > > > what was happening mentally. Perhaps her doctor has seen her for so > > long > > > he knows what is wrong without checking? If you can't get him to take > > > another good look, I suggest looking for someone knowledgeable in > > > age-related problems and see if they will see your mother. They may be > > > able to help you get her going again. Sooner the better cause it is > hard > > > to get moving again if you sit still too long. > > > Neysa > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > From: grandbanna > > > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > > > Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:43 PM > > > Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > > > > > > > > > > > As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is > > now > > > with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and day so > > > she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as they were > > in > > > their home, she was up and going but now she has set down and doesn't > get > > > up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. She would sleep > all > > > day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard time emotionally, so I > > > know she must be dealing with even more than I am. I know she needs to > > > rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't know when to start > > > encouraging her to be active again. She has neuropathy in her legs and > > > says she would get up if her legs didn't hurt so bad. Medication > doesn't > > > help. I could ask her doctor but he would just give her another pill. > > She > > > needs something to keep her occupied. I have that, but she is totally > > > removed from her familiar surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as > > to > > > how I can help her. I'm sorry since! > > > t! > > > his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have > > > wise advice. > > > > > > Martha > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the > > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the > > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > -- "If you don't get outside every day, even for a minute, you have not appreciated what God has done. 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Martha, while I have not commented you are in my thoughts and prayers. The only other suggestion I would make is when the time is right, help her to reconnect with her old friends. As we get older, old friends are hard to find but they are the ones who best understand our memories and our ways. Marilyn On Fri, Feb 7, 2014 at 11:11 AM, grandbanna <grandbanna@hughes.net> wrote: > I knew you all would have good advice. Thank you for helping me. I am > still very tearful and as you said, Doug, the weather is awful and we can't > get outside so we are basically shut in until possibly sometime next week. > I am not one to stay in the house so I'm dealing with my own challenges > through all this and that makes it more difficult to help Mother. Yes, she > does have a certain amount of dementia. She knows the day and time and > can remember to do the things she has done repetitively for months but her > short and long term memory are both bad and have been for some time. She > once liked to do search-a-word puzzles but she can't see well any more. > She enjoys looking through her old pictures (the ones the ex > daughter-in-law hasn't stolen) but she can't tell me who most of them are > any more. She can't be left alone for any length of time so she's living > with me now. She has to have time to acclimate to my house and feel at > home. The last couple of years have bee! > n rough on all of us but on her most of all. Daddy hasn't slept at night > in 35 years and he kept her awake so she has her days and nights mixed up. > He had spine surgery two years ago that basically left him unable to help > himself at all. She waited on him hand and foot. Then he had a couple of > small strokes which affected his speech. His mind was very sharp but he got > to the point that he was demanding and would even curse at her and accuse > her of not wanting to help him. I never could get it across to him that she > needed to sleep. All his fussing etc, is in her mind at night now. She's > reliving it. The doctor did give her something to calm her at night and I > think it is helping a little. She is also taking an anti-depressant. > Daddy was the music director in our church for fifty years. I played the > piano for him during that time. He was also a deacon since the 1960's. He > was a good man. My sweet Mother was always behind the scenes, quietly > taking care of everything ! > and everyone. She neglected herself to provide for others. Our son-i > n-law is our pastor and he's been very good to Mother. She will be able > to go to church with us now for the first time in two years. I know it > will all work out. I just wanted to know if I was moving in the right > direction. > > Martha > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Doug Crim <ddcrim@gmail.com> > To: memory-lane <memory-lane@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Fri, 07 Feb 2014 08:07:07 -0500 (EST) > Subject: Re: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > Martha, as Grace said, your Mom just needs more time. There is nothing you > can do for her now except to be there and give her hugs. It hasn't been > very long since I lost my wife and I miss her dearly. I will miss her for > a very long time. That's just how it is. From now on, it is up to Mom. > I have a slight advantage because my wife had been so very sick for so > long. I am now realizing that I actually began the transition many months > ago. My biggest problem now is my kids. I think they are convinced I'm > going to go nuts out here on the ranch without anyone to talk to. They > don't realize that I enjoy the quiet and solitude. My other biggest > problem right now is the weather. Warm and sunny Texas hasn't been very > warm and sunny. I can hardly wait to get back on my tractor and get back > to work around the ranch. It is not my nature to not be doing something. > I have said before that even if nothing else breaks or goes wrong, I'll > still have enough to keep me busy for a lifetime. > My advice for you is to be patient. Let Mom work thru her grief at her own > pace. She'll be okay. > > Doug > > > On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 10:00 PM, grace gathman wrote: > > > If it has only been a week since her husband of many years passed away > she > > really hasn't worked through the first stage of grief--she really does > need > > a little more time and space--even if that space is within herself. Do > you > > have a pastor who she is close to--just holding some ones hand and > talking > > out her feelings would help. She has a lot to process and it does take > > time. If you have a hospice organization in your area, even if they > weren't > > involved with your father they have wonderful grief volunteers. Does she > > like music? Listening to hymns and songs that are meaningful to her might > > help her work through these first weeks of her loss. You are right that > > there isn't much medicine that works for neuropathy, but keeping her legs > > elevated might help some. Both of you need time and love of others these > > first hard weeks. Does she knit or do any handicraft that might give her > a > > goal to work toward? You both will be in my prayers. Grace > > > > > > On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 8:22 PM, Neysa wrote: > > > > > Been there, Martha. And I didn't realize what was going on. Mom took > > > care of Dad until he went into a nursing home; then she visited > everyday. > > > When he died, suddenly she had nothing to do. Had given up all her > > > activities to take care of him and his problems. Her sister came to > live > > > with her, which I thought was a good thing, but the sister didn't want > to > > > go anywhere or do anything. Sister didn't drive, so that was left to > > Mom. > > > > > > Actually she was still "alone" with no one to do anything with. For a > > > while she did take them out riding but soon she was tired again...and > > even > > > after we brought them over here and after Mom came to live with us, she > > had > > > lost any desire to do anything but watch TV. In her case she was going > > > into dementia, which no one could do anything about. > > > > > > I do wish (hind-sight) that I had found someone who could have told me > > > what was happening mentally. Perhaps her doctor has seen her for so > > long > > > he knows what is wrong without checking? If you can't get him to take > > > another good look, I suggest looking for someone knowledgeable in > > > age-related problems and see if they will see your mother. They may be > > > able to help you get her going again. Sooner the better cause it is > hard > > > to get moving again if you sit still too long. > > > Neysa > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > From: grandbanna > > > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > > > Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:43 PM > > > Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > > > > > > > > > > > As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is > > now > > > with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and day so > > > she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as they were > > in > > > their home, she was up and going but now she has set down and doesn't > get > > > up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. She would sleep > all > > > day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard time emotionally, so I > > > know she must be dealing with even more than I am. I know she needs to > > > rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't know when to start > > > encouraging her to be active again. She has neuropathy in her legs and > > > says she would get up if her legs didn't hurt so bad. Medication > doesn't > > > help. I could ask her doctor but he would just give her another pill. > > She > > > needs something to keep her occupied. I have that, but she is totally > > > removed from her familiar surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as > > to > > > how I can help her. I'm sorry since! > > > t! > > > his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have > > > wise advice. > > > > > > Martha > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the > > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the > > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > -- "If you don't get outside every day, even for a minute, you have not appreciated what God has done. It makes you grateful for our surroundings, and it starts your day differently." Johnny Cash

I knew you all would have good advice. Thank you for helping me. I am still very tearful and as you said, Doug, the weather is awful and we can't get outside so we are basically shut in until possibly sometime next week. I am not one to stay in the house so I'm dealing with my own challenges through all this and that makes it more difficult to help Mother. Yes, she does have a certain amount of dementia. She knows the day and time and can remember to do the things she has done repetitively for months but her short and long term memory are both bad and have been for some time. She once liked to do search-a-word puzzles but she can't see well any more. She enjoys looking through her old pictures (the ones the ex daughter-in-law hasn't stolen) but she can't tell me who most of them are any more. She can't be left alone for any length of time so she's living with me now. She has to have time to acclimate to my house and feel at home. The last couple of years have been rough on all of us but on her most of all. Daddy hasn't slept at night in 35 years and he kept her awake so she has her days and nights mixed up. He had spine surgery two years ago that basically left him unable to help himself at all. She waited on him hand and foot. Then he had a couple of small strokes which affected his speech. His mind was very sharp but he got to the point that he was demanding and would even curse at her and accuse her of not wanting to help him. I never could get it across to him that she needed to sleep. All his fussing etc, is in her mind at night now. She's reliving it. The doctor did give her something to calm her at night and I think it is helping a little. She is also taking an anti-depressant. Daddy was the music director in our church for fifty years. I played the piano for him during that time. He was also a deacon since the 1960's. He was a good man. My sweet Mother was always behind the scenes, quietly taking care of everything and everyone. She neglected herself to provide for others. Our son-in-law is our pastor and he's been very good to Mother. She will be able to go to church with us now for the first time in two years. I know it will all work out. I just wanted to know if I was moving in the right direction. Martha ----- Original Message ----- From: Doug Crim <ddcrim@gmail.com> To: memory-lane <memory-lane@rootsweb.com> Sent: Fri, 07 Feb 2014 08:07:07 -0500 (EST) Subject: Re: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please Martha, as Grace said, your Mom just needs more time. There is nothing you can do for her now except to be there and give her hugs. It hasn't been very long since I lost my wife and I miss her dearly. I will miss her for a very long time. That's just how it is. From now on, it is up to Mom. I have a slight advantage because my wife had been so very sick for so long. I am now realizing that I actually began the transition many months ago. My biggest problem now is my kids. I think they are convinced I'm going to go nuts out here on the ranch without anyone to talk to. They don't realize that I enjoy the quiet and solitude. My other biggest problem right now is the weather. Warm and sunny Texas hasn't been very warm and sunny. I can hardly wait to get back on my tractor and get back to work around the ranch. It is not my nature to not be doing something. I have said before that even if nothing else breaks or goes wrong, I'll still have enough to keep me busy for a lifetime. My advice for you is to be patient. Let Mom work thru her grief at her own pace. She'll be okay. Doug On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 10:00 PM, grace gathman wrote: > If it has only been a week since her husband of many years passed away she > really hasn't worked through the first stage of grief--she really does need > a little more time and space--even if that space is within herself. Do you > have a pastor who she is close to--just holding some ones hand and talking > out her feelings would help. She has a lot to process and it does take > time. If you have a hospice organization in your area, even if they weren't > involved with your father they have wonderful grief volunteers. Does she > like music? Listening to hymns and songs that are meaningful to her might > help her work through these first weeks of her loss. You are right that > there isn't much medicine that works for neuropathy, but keeping her legs > elevated might help some. Both of you need time and love of others these > first hard weeks. Does she knit or do any handicraft that might give her a > goal to work toward? You both will be in my prayers. Grace > > > On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 8:22 PM, Neysa wrote: > > > Been there, Martha. And I didn't realize what was going on. Mom took > > care of Dad until he went into a nursing home; then she visited everyday. > > When he died, suddenly she had nothing to do. Had given up all her > > activities to take care of him and his problems. Her sister came to live > > with her, which I thought was a good thing, but the sister didn't want to > > go anywhere or do anything. Sister didn't drive, so that was left to > Mom. > > > > Actually she was still "alone" with no one to do anything with. For a > > while she did take them out riding but soon she was tired again...and > even > > after we brought them over here and after Mom came to live with us, she > had > > lost any desire to do anything but watch TV. In her case she was going > > into dementia, which no one could do anything about. > > > > I do wish (hind-sight) that I had found someone who could have told me > > what was happening mentally. Perhaps her doctor has seen her for so > long > > he knows what is wrong without checking? If you can't get him to take > > another good look, I suggest looking for someone knowledgeable in > > age-related problems and see if they will see your mother. They may be > > able to help you get her going again. Sooner the better cause it is hard > > to get moving again if you sit still too long. > > Neysa > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: grandbanna > > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > > Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:43 PM > > Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > > > > > > > As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is > now > > with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and day so > > she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as they were > in > > their home, she was up and going but now she has set down and doesn't get > > up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. She would sleep all > > day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard time emotionally, so I > > know she must be dealing with even more than I am. I know she needs to > > rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't know when to start > > encouraging her to be active again. She has neuropathy in her legs and > > says she would get up if her legs didn't hurt so bad. Medication doesn't > > help. I could ask her doctor but he would just give her another pill. > She > > needs something to keep her occupied. I have that, but she is totally > > removed from her familiar surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as > to > > how I can help her. I'm sorry since! > > t! > > his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have > > wise advice. > > > > Martha > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Monday I will have cataract surgery on one of my eyes... I have waited years for this and plan to enjoy the end result. Have had cataracts for many years but each year after my eye exam, the doctor says they aren't ready for surgery... Grrrrrrr On Friday of last week, I saw an eye specialist for another problem. He asked if I'd noticed my vision worsening. Of course I said "Yes". Apparently he sent my eye doctor a report and in it, told him my cataracts had gotten much worse. I got a phone call on Wed. this week suggesting that I come in to discuss cataract surgery... Can anyone tell how thrilled I am? lol The Dougster

Martha, as Grace said, your Mom just needs more time. There is nothing you can do for her now except to be there and give her hugs. It hasn't been very long since I lost my wife and I miss her dearly. I will miss her for a very long time. That's just how it is. From now on, it is up to Mom. I have a slight advantage because my wife had been so very sick for so long. I am now realizing that I actually began the transition many months ago. My biggest problem now is my kids. I think they are convinced I'm going to go nuts out here on the ranch without anyone to talk to. They don't realize that I enjoy the quiet and solitude. My other biggest problem right now is the weather. Warm and sunny Texas hasn't been very warm and sunny. I can hardly wait to get back on my tractor and get back to work around the ranch. It is not my nature to not be doing something. I have said before that even if nothing else breaks or goes wrong, I'll still have enough to keep me busy for a lifetime. My advice for you is to be patient. Let Mom work thru her grief at her own pace. She'll be okay. Doug On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 10:00 PM, grace gathman <grace.gathman@gmail.com>wrote: > If it has only been a week since her husband of many years passed away she > really hasn't worked through the first stage of grief--she really does need > a little more time and space--even if that space is within herself. Do you > have a pastor who she is close to--just holding some ones hand and talking > out her feelings would help. She has a lot to process and it does take > time. If you have a hospice organization in your area, even if they weren't > involved with your father they have wonderful grief volunteers. Does she > like music? Listening to hymns and songs that are meaningful to her might > help her work through these first weeks of her loss. You are right that > there isn't much medicine that works for neuropathy, but keeping her legs > elevated might help some. Both of you need time and love of others these > first hard weeks. Does she knit or do any handicraft that might give her a > goal to work toward? You both will be in my prayers. Grace > > > On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 8:22 PM, Neysa <gramneysa@ct.metrocast.net> wrote: > > > Been there, Martha. And I didn't realize what was going on. Mom took > > care of Dad until he went into a nursing home; then she visited everyday. > > When he died, suddenly she had nothing to do. Had given up all her > > activities to take care of him and his problems. Her sister came to live > > with her, which I thought was a good thing, but the sister didn't want to > > go anywhere or do anything. Sister didn't drive, so that was left to > Mom. > > > > Actually she was still "alone" with no one to do anything with. For a > > while she did take them out riding but soon she was tired again...and > even > > after we brought them over here and after Mom came to live with us, she > had > > lost any desire to do anything but watch TV. In her case she was going > > into dementia, which no one could do anything about. > > > > I do wish (hind-sight) that I had found someone who could have told me > > what was happening mentally. Perhaps her doctor has seen her for so > long > > he knows what is wrong without checking? If you can't get him to take > > another good look, I suggest looking for someone knowledgeable in > > age-related problems and see if they will see your mother. They may be > > able to help you get her going again. Sooner the better cause it is hard > > to get moving again if you sit still too long. > > Neysa > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: grandbanna > > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > > Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:43 PM > > Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > > > > > > > As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is > now > > with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and day so > > she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as they were > in > > their home, she was up and going but now she has set down and doesn't get > > up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. She would sleep all > > day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard time emotionally, so I > > know she must be dealing with even more than I am. I know she needs to > > rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't know when to start > > encouraging her to be active again. She has neuropathy in her legs and > > says she would get up if her legs didn't hurt so bad. Medication doesn't > > help. I could ask her doctor but he would just give her another pill. > She > > needs something to keep her occupied. I have that, but she is totally > > removed from her familiar surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as > to > > how I can help her. I'm sorry since! > > t! > > his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have > > wise advice. > > > > Martha > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

Martha, I have neuropathy in my feet and in constant pain so I know what she is going through. There are a lot of people who complain about their legs hurting. Compression stockings might help. I think that maybe you need a prescription to get the ones that would help her. Wish I had more help. Barb On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 11:00 PM, grace gathman <grace.gathman@gmail.com>wrote: > If it has only been a week since her husband of many years passed away she > really hasn't worked through the first stage of grief--she really does need > a little more time and space--even if that space is within herself. Do you > have a pastor who she is close to--just holding some ones hand and talking > out her feelings would help. She has a lot to process and it does take > time. If you have a hospice organization in your area, even if they weren't > involved with your father they have wonderful grief volunteers. Does she > like music? Listening to hymns and songs that are meaningful to her might > help her work through these first weeks of her loss. You are right that > there isn't much medicine that works for neuropathy, but keeping her legs > elevated might help some. Both of you need time and love of others these > first hard weeks. Does she knit or do any handicraft that might give her a > goal to work toward? You both will be in my prayers. Grace > > > On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 8:22 PM, Neysa <gramneysa@ct.metrocast.net> wrote: > > > Been there, Martha. And I didn't realize what was going on. Mom took > > care of Dad until he went into a nursing home; then she visited everyday. > > When he died, suddenly she had nothing to do. Had given up all her > > activities to take care of him and his problems. Her sister came to live > > with her, which I thought was a good thing, but the sister didn't want to > > go anywhere or do anything. Sister didn't drive, so that was left to > Mom. > > > > Actually she was still "alone" with no one to do anything with. For a > > while she did take them out riding but soon she was tired again...and > even > > after we brought them over here and after Mom came to live with us, she > had > > lost any desire to do anything but watch TV. In her case she was going > > into dementia, which no one could do anything about. > > > > I do wish (hind-sight) that I had found someone who could have told me > > what was happening mentally. Perhaps her doctor has seen her for so > long > > he knows what is wrong without checking? If you can't get him to take > > another good look, I suggest looking for someone knowledgeable in > > age-related problems and see if they will see your mother. They may be > > able to help you get her going again. Sooner the better cause it is hard > > to get moving again if you sit still too long. > > Neysa > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: grandbanna > > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > > Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:43 PM > > Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > > > > > > > As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is > now > > with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and day so > > she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as they were > in > > their home, she was up and going but now she has set down and doesn't get > > up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. She would sleep all > > day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard time emotionally, so I > > know she must be dealing with even more than I am. I know she needs to > > rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't know when to start > > encouraging her to be active again. She has neuropathy in her legs and > > says she would get up if her legs didn't hurt so bad. Medication doesn't > > help. I could ask her doctor but he would just give her another pill. > She > > needs something to keep her occupied. I have that, but she is totally > > removed from her familiar surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as > to > > how I can help her. I'm sorry since! > > t! > > his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have > > wise advice. > > > > Martha > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > > > > > ------------------------------- > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

If it has only been a week since her husband of many years passed away she really hasn't worked through the first stage of grief--she really does need a little more time and space--even if that space is within herself. Do you have a pastor who she is close to--just holding some ones hand and talking out her feelings would help. She has a lot to process and it does take time. If you have a hospice organization in your area, even if they weren't involved with your father they have wonderful grief volunteers. Does she like music? Listening to hymns and songs that are meaningful to her might help her work through these first weeks of her loss. You are right that there isn't much medicine that works for neuropathy, but keeping her legs elevated might help some. Both of you need time and love of others these first hard weeks. Does she knit or do any handicraft that might give her a goal to work toward? You both will be in my prayers. Grace On Thu, Feb 6, 2014 at 8:22 PM, Neysa <gramneysa@ct.metrocast.net> wrote: > Been there, Martha. And I didn't realize what was going on. Mom took > care of Dad until he went into a nursing home; then she visited everyday. > When he died, suddenly she had nothing to do. Had given up all her > activities to take care of him and his problems. Her sister came to live > with her, which I thought was a good thing, but the sister didn't want to > go anywhere or do anything. Sister didn't drive, so that was left to Mom. > > Actually she was still "alone" with no one to do anything with. For a > while she did take them out riding but soon she was tired again...and even > after we brought them over here and after Mom came to live with us, she had > lost any desire to do anything but watch TV. In her case she was going > into dementia, which no one could do anything about. > > I do wish (hind-sight) that I had found someone who could have told me > what was happening mentally. Perhaps her doctor has seen her for so long > he knows what is wrong without checking? If you can't get him to take > another good look, I suggest looking for someone knowledgeable in > age-related problems and see if they will see your mother. They may be > able to help you get her going again. Sooner the better cause it is hard > to get moving again if you sit still too long. > Neysa > ----- Original Message ----- > From: grandbanna > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:43 PM > Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please > > > > As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is now > with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and day so > she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as they were in > their home, she was up and going but now she has set down and doesn't get > up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. She would sleep all > day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard time emotionally, so I > know she must be dealing with even more than I am. I know she needs to > rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't know when to start > encouraging her to be active again. She has neuropathy in her legs and > says she would get up if her legs didn't hurt so bad. Medication doesn't > help. I could ask her doctor but he would just give her another pill. She > needs something to keep her occupied. I have that, but she is totally > removed from her familiar surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as to > how I can help her. I'm sorry since! > t! > his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have > wise advice. > > Martha > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

Been there, Martha. And I didn't realize what was going on. Mom took care of Dad until he went into a nursing home; then she visited everyday. When he died, suddenly she had nothing to do. Had given up all her activities to take care of him and his problems. Her sister came to live with her, which I thought was a good thing, but the sister didn't want to go anywhere or do anything. Sister didn't drive, so that was left to Mom. Actually she was still "alone" with no one to do anything with. For a while she did take them out riding but soon she was tired again...and even after we brought them over here and after Mom came to live with us, she had lost any desire to do anything but watch TV. In her case she was going into dementia, which no one could do anything about. I do wish (hind-sight) that I had found someone who could have told me what was happening mentally. Perhaps her doctor has seen her for so long he knows what is wrong without checking? If you can't get him to take another good look, I suggest looking for someone knowledgeable in age-related problems and see if they will see your mother. They may be able to help you get her going again. Sooner the better cause it is hard to get moving again if you sit still too long. Neysa ----- Original Message ----- From: grandbanna To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com Sent: Thursday, February 06, 2014 6:43 PM Subject: [ML] I Need A Voice of Experience Please As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is now with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and day so she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as they were in their home, she was up and going but now she has set down and doesn't get up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. She would sleep all day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard time emotionally, so I know she must be dealing with even more than I am. I know she needs to rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't know when to start encouraging her to be active again. She has neuropathy in her legs and says she would get up if her legs didn't hurt so bad. Medication doesn't help. I could ask her doctor but he would just give her another pill. She needs something to keep her occupied. I have that, but she is totally removed from her familiar surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as to how I can help her. I'm sorry since t! his is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have wise advice. Martha http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

As you know I posted about my Dad passing away Feb. 1. My Mother is now with me. She can't stay by herself. Daddy kept her up night and day so she hasn't had much rest in a couple of years now. As long as they were in their home, she was up and going but now she has set down and doesn't get up unless she needs to go to the restroom or to eat. She would sleep all day if I would let her. I'm still having a hard time emotionally, so I know she must be dealing with even more than I am. I know she needs to rest for a while. The thing is, I just don't know when to start encouraging her to be active again. She has neuropathy in her legs and says she would get up if her legs didn't hurt so bad. Medication doesn't help. I could ask her doctor but he would just give her another pill. She needs something to keep her occupied. I have that, but she is totally removed from her familiar surroundings. Does anyone have suggestions as to how I can help her. I'm sorry since this is not an advice website but I felt like some of you would have wise advice. Martha

Finally woke up to rain this morning. It had rained over night. I thought I heard it dripping off the roof but wasn't sure, could be the cat up there. We even had mud puddles in the drive way. Of course this is just a little drip of what we need but good for the yard and the plants. There was one bush that was drying up. Usually always green, Now it will come back. I hope. We had a drought several years back but don't think the lakes were so low at this point. I just worry about the well going dry. Guess if it does it does. Supposed to have more rain this week end. every one have a good day. Enjoy the rain if you are in the rain. Louise in Ca.

Doug, I've thought about and prayed for you and I still will. Thank you. Martha ----- Original Message ----- From: Doug Crim <ddcrim@gmail.com> To: memory-lane <memory-lane@rootsweb.com> Sent: Sun, 02 Feb 2014 11:24:11 -0500 (EST) Subject: Re: [ML] My Sweet Daddy Martha, please accept my deepest sense of the loss of you dad. Having recently I understand your feelings. It is with a deep sense of relief and heartache you are feeling. I understand. Doug On Sun, Feb 2, 2014 at 8:43 AM, grandbanna wrote: > Thank you Helen. We have wonderful memories. > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Helen Ware > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Sent: Sun, 02 Feb 2014 09:01:19 -0500 (EST) > Subject: Re: [ML] My Sweet Daddy > > Deepest sympathy to you and your family in the loss of your father. May the > wonderful memories of him make you smile and help you through this > difficult > time. > Helen > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Ruth, that is exactly how I was brought up--waste not/want not. I still have buttons and things from my Gram who taught me so much of her ways. Like you I find things others can use by looking through my tins of stuff! The ski country is glad to have this storm, I am sure. My friends in N.H. all cross country ski so they are thrilled also. I have a string of old keys amoung my Gram's stuff-skeleton keys and lock box keys etc. I am thinking of making a shadow box with velvet or some nice fabric to show them off -there is also one on a leather type fob from some place they must have stayed and kept the key! I have the buttons from Gramps WWI jacket that got moth eaten years ago from being hung in the garage! Sometimes I just like to go through these things and smile thinking about the uses they served over the years. If alive today would be my grandparents 94th wedding anniversary! Stay warm and dry! Helen

Thank you Louise and all who thought about me. I told my husband last night that my life has changed so abruptly since Saturday evening. I am still sort of in limbo. There is so much waiting for me to take care of......insurances to file on....business to take care of at the bank, etc....thank you cards to fill out and mail.....dishes to return to those who provided food for our huge family (37 of us) and other things that I've not even thought about yet. My mother has moved in with me and at some point we are going to have to make adjustments to our house to accommodate her needs. Then there's her house that will have to have attention at some point. Eventually I'll get it done but I'm not in a hurry. I do have so many memories and they will keep me going. God is carrying me through this. Thank you that you all are here for me. :-) Martha ----- Original Message ----- From: Louise Valine <antique1931@saber.net> To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com Sent: Sun, 02 Feb 2014 12:13:03 -0500 (EST) Subject: [ML] My sweet daddy Martha, sorry to hear of your loss. When you have been involved with the taking care of it is hard to all of a sudden not have that. I think of my daddy every day and he has been gone since 1969, also my mom. You have the memories to smile and laugh about the good times. It is a hard time. Hope god can help carry you through this. Louise http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Hi All, from SNOWY southern VT,  Expecting a foot or more of the "white gold."  Our ski industry has been crying for it and even I, a definite non-skier, was getting sick of looking at brown grass in the fields, and just plain COLD. Actually I have SEVERAL junk cans, boxes, paper bags, etc.  My husband is always after me about them, BUT when he wants some odd bit I frequently can come up with it.  Waste not, want not.  Use it up, wear it out, make do or do without.  These are maxims I heard all my life, and they sure hold true.  Ruth On Tue, 4 Feb 2014 00:17:25 -0500 (EST), Sullyshirl73@aol.com wrote: Years ago, we went to a friends housewarming party, a friends of theirs and > ours brought this box, it was wrapped up real pretty. He gave half > of his box of old screws, old nails, stuff you found in your car, > anything left over form a building project, old rubber washers, > handles from somewhere, latches, old keys you don't know what they > unlock, and anything that's left on the garage floor after you > cleaned it. Also almost anything like old springs, caps, nuts, and > bolts, locks of metal washers, the end of old hoses, and plenty more > I can't think of at this moment. My husband has a metal can, filled > to the top with lots of junk, he says he saving all this stuff in > case he needs a odd screw, or nail, but every time he needs anything > from one screw, to a O ring, he goes to Cannings hardware. It's a > town over, but you get a live body, who knows something about > hardware, he owned the store since it opened way back when !!! I > think most of you ladies know what I am talking about, the box, bin > or can filled with this and that, but never has what you really need > !!! > Sully in Sunny California > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the quotes in the subject and the body of the message > >

Our daughter gave me a rescue dog for mothers day almost two years ago, (my husband said we were to old to get another dog) So my daughter gave me a sweet little dog, he's a Shih Tzu, he has a long silky coat, reddish-gold and white, he is my shadow, so sweet, and gentle. Since it's gotten colder here, he sometimes sleeps by me, I think he gets cold, and he comes up by me for warmth. When I first got him, I went to Home depot, and bought some of that heavy plastic you can cover stairs with, got a piece that fit across the back of our hall, by the broom closet, and placed two of those doggie Pee pads on the plastic. that's where Greeley did his business most of the time, but he always went outside to do his big business, if I was outside some times he also pee peed outside too. But about two months ago, he started going out side all the time to do his business, he started doing this all on his own. My husband says the cats called him names, like pee boy, and that's what prompted him to start going outside to do his business, Yea like that's what happened !!! I so enjoy my Greeley, he's just what I needed, very loving, and he loves to be with me where ever I go. He is so much company, I never feel alone, some times he just jumps up into my lap, and wants me to love him, and of course I do, I also give him big kisses on the top of his head, he loves them. My two cats are still put off by Greeley, but I have enough love to give to all of them, I am so glad I have my little Greeley, he's was the best Mothers Day gift !!! Sully, in cloudy and cool, California

Oh I so like English comedy, "The Last of the Summer Wine" is a laugh a minute, I also like all these comedies on our Public Television station. As Time goes by Keeping up Appearances Waiting for God - I love this show and theirs a Canadian TV show, "The Red Green Show" so funny I think Walter would like this one, a man who repairs stuff with Silver tape, and other odd stuff !!! My husbands can't understand what I find so funny, but I love these English comedy sitcoms, they are from the 1980's and 1990's, but they still get a laugh out of me. They are shown on our PBS stations, haven't seen many the last few years, but they can be bought on Amazon. I have a few on DVD, and a few on Video, I am asking for my birthday, a new Video player, there aren't many around anymore, I saw a DVD/VIDEO player at Target around Christmas, I many have to get that !!! Sully in cloudy California (hoping for more rain)

Consider a rescue dog that has been in foster care. Usually by the time they are adopted out, they are pretty well trained. Connie Have considered getting a dog but have been procrastinating. Need one that is housebroken and that will leave my chickens alone. My to-do list continues to grow... lol :-)**

What is it with men. Have to save this we might need it some time. They can search all day and not find the thing they are looking for so they put two or three other things together to make the one thing they need and think we should praise them for that. gees. The only thing that goes in the trash can is very little on the bottom, the rest is all over the place. My son told his dad he should keep two of each thing and put the rest in a container and have a yard sale or send it to the dump. He has plactic bags you wouldn't believe. Save, save, save. But it is what it is. Yesterday I came back from groc. shopping, hate it. went to turn the tv down and it didn't work. Oh here is another one laying there so I think I had brought the one from the computer room out. No that is in there. I guess he had been in the drawers and put a changer that doesn't have any batteries in it over to the table. He moved the keys for the new lock on his shop from where I would know where they are to the cupboard. Oh well at least I know what is going on there. Every one have a good day. Louise