Once again I will ask that anyone that wants to is more than welcome to join AIF, where anyone can say anything they wish. On AIF, it really is a free country with free speech. Doug .... On Tue, Feb 18, 2014 at 12:39 PM, <Sullyshirl73@aol.com> wrote: > I also want to know what Barbara wrote about, and who criticize what she > said? I have noticed over the years, not one person on this list ever > CRITICIZES ANY OF THE MEN ON THIS LIST, THEY CAN SAY ANYTHING, do > anything, not > one word of disagreement, what ever cames out of their mouths. Sometimes > this is the only voice some of our members have !! As we age we change, > our > needs change, I have always thought (at least on this list, we let people > say what they must). I have noticed, also that those who criticize the > most, > write very little to no Memories. If we didn't write about how we feel, > what we have done that day, this list would die !!! I have worked in a lot > of > originations over the years, PTA, Girl scouts, boy scouts, little league, > worked in schools helping get the school newspaper out, volunteered in > Children's hospital, a Sunday school teacher for many years, also as a > church > councilor at Summer camp, and many, many, more places, and I have found > that > those who criticize the most, do the least. My mother always told me, that > when someone is picking on you, at least they are leaving some other poor > soul alone, maybe someone who couldn't take it good you can. Isn't it hard > enough getting old, and our health failing, without fellow senior citizens > criticizing every thing we say. > > Shame on You ??? who ever you are !!! > > Sully, in Sunny California > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

Margy, what's going on with Barb? She says someone is reviewing a post of hers about her unborn great grandchild and she has to leave the list? I don't understand? Carol K On Mon, Feb 17, 2014 at 11:12 PM, mbousman <mbousman7@cox.net> wrote: > tipperboo12@gmail.com > > She should have seen your post. > I just unsubscribed her as she requested. > > Margy > > -----Original Message----- > From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com > [mailto:memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of Louise Valine > Sent: Monday, February 17, 2014 10:42 PM > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Subject: [ML] Barbara > > Hate to see you leaving. I tried to write you but there was something wrong > with the email I have for you, So if some one has her address sure would > like to have it. > Louise > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >

tipperboo12@gmail.com She should have seen your post. I just unsubscribed her as she requested. Margy -----Original Message----- From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of Louise Valine Sent: Monday, February 17, 2014 10:42 PM To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com Subject: [ML] Barbara Hate to see you leaving. I tried to write you but there was something wrong with the email I have for you, So if some one has her address sure would like to have it. Louise http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Hate to see you leaving. I tried to write you but there was something wrong with the email I have for you, So if some one has her address sure would like to have it. Louise

First I would like to say Happy Anniversary Martha to you and your husband, it's a little late, but didn't read your e-mail till this morning. We also took in my mother-in-laws Parrot, a little while after we got married, they started traveling, so we were stuck with this Parrot. He could say a few things, but he could wolf whistle real good. He got my husband in trouble more than once, on Saturdays my husband would wash our car in the driveway, he would hang the parrot up in a tree (for fresh air), our home was right around the corner from a park, some girls came walking by and the Parrot started wolf whistling, the girls gave my husband a really dirty look !!! It happened more than once !!! Also we got feed for the Parrot at a Feed store, but if he smelled ground beef cooking he would squawk till he got some, he loved ground beef cooked, found out later my father-in-law, started him on this meat eating. He also would squawk if we didn't get up and take his cover off the cage, when he wanted. I like the Parrots flying over our house, more than owning a Parrot. I think they need to be with their own kind, I now think it's cruel to keep just one bird of any kind, they need friends just like we do !!!!! Have a great Saturday everyone. Sully in Sunny California In a message dated 2/14/2014 1:20:28 P.M. Pacific Standard Time, grandbanna@hughes.net writes: Happy Valentine's Day to you too, Sully. That was sweet of your husband to make you breakfast. Oh I'd hate for my husband to attempt to cook. Let's just say he's way too creative. :-) We got married 45 years ago today at 7:00 p.m. We were together all day decorating my parents' home where the wedding was held. He went home about an hour and a half before the ceremony to get dressed. I was concerned that he wouldn't make it back on time but he did. It misted rain all day and that night the fog was so bad we could barely see the road. My Mother-in-law had a parrot that could talk. Someone gave it to her after it was trained. They could no longer keep it. That bird was a mess. My husband picked at it. He would stick the cat's tail just close enough the bird would reach for it but couldn't get it. The bird would bite my husband though and then laugh. It sounded like a room full of people laughing. Every time my husband would come into the house the bird would say "where's that cat?" There was a knock on her door one day while she was in the bathroom. The bird said, "come on in" so when she got back to the living room, two men were sitting on her couch. She locked the door from then on. We love to travel too but haven't been anywhere the past three years since Daddy had to have constant care. Now Mother can't be left by herself. I don't know if we will get to travel any more or not but if we don't, that's okay too. Hope everyone has a good day. Martha

Sully, Hope you had a wonderful Valentine's Day too. Sounds like you did. I didn't know that Parrots were in California, and flew in flocks. Happy Valentine's day, cousin. Nitey, nite. Jerrian -----Original Message----- From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of Sullyshirl73@aol.com Sent: Friday, February 14, 2014 2:29 PM To: an-internet-family@googlegroups.com; memory-lane@rootsweb.com Subject: [ML] Happy Valentines Day Dear Friends I want to wish you all a very nice Valentines Day, My sweetheart of 56 years, made me breakfast this morning, pancakes, sausage, and eggs, was all so good. Also this morning a flock of Parrot's came flying over our house, squeaking real loud, I told my husband they were saying "Happy Valentines Day" all you people. They are so green, even with my bad eye site, I could see how green they are, they don't fly very high, so they are easy to see !!! They must have nests in the Palm trees two street over, that would be fun to see a Parrots nest. Some people don't like them, because their so noisy, but I don't sleep as much as I use to, or as much as I would like to, so they can squeak as much as they want to. It seems the older I get the more I appreciate birds, well, really most wild life, they are so much fun to watch. When we used to go up to Winchester Bay to a RV park in our motor-home, in Oregon, we used to see Canadian Geese as they stopped to rest on their way to or from Canada. Depends on if we went in the spring, or Fall, they were always resting in this big field, also their was some elk in that same field too. We haven't traveled in our motor home for over three years now, we were talking about maybe taking a few short trips this year, it depends on our health, but no more long trips for us, just can't do it anymore. All of you, have a good day, just do something you like doing !!! Sully, in Beautiful Sunny California http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

There’s a good documentary The Parrots of Telegraph Hill (in San Francisco). There are a lot of them! Connie Sully, Hope you had a wonderful Valentine's Day too. Sounds like you did. I didn't know that Parrots were in California, and flew in flocks. Happy Valentine's day, cousin. Nitey, nite. Jerrian

To all: Suzy's address book has been hacked; this is not from her. Do not click on the link! Connie

Happy Valentine's Day to you too, Sully. That was sweet of your husband to make you breakfast. Oh I'd hate for my husband to attempt to cook. Let's just say he's way too creative. :-) We got married 45 years ago today at 7:00 p.m. We were together all day decorating my parents' home where the wedding was held. He went home about an hour and a half before the ceremony to get dressed. I was concerned that he wouldn't make it back on time but he did. It misted rain all day and that night the fog was so bad we could barely see the road. My Mother-in-law had a parrot that could talk. Someone gave it to her after it was trained. They could no longer keep it. That bird was a mess. My husband picked at it. He would stick the cat's tail just close enough the bird would reach for it but couldn't get it. The bird would bite my husband though and then laugh. It sounded like a room full of people laughing. Every time my husband would come into the house the bird would say "where's that cat?" There was a knock on her door one day while she was in the bathroom. The bird said, "come on in" so when she got back to the living room, two men were sitting on her couch. She locked the door from then on. We love to travel too but haven't been anywhere the past three years since Daddy had to have constant care. Now Mother can't be left by herself. I don't know if we will get to travel any more or not but if we don't, that's okay too. Hope everyone has a good day. Martha ----- Original Message ----- From: Sullyshirl73@aol.com To: an-internet-family@googlegroups.com, memory-lane@rootsweb.com Sent: Fri, 14 Feb 2014 15:28:37 -0500 (EST) Subject: [ML] Happy Valentines Day Dear Friends I want to wish you all a very nice Valentines Day, My sweetheart of 56 years, made me breakfast this morning, pancakes, sausage, and eggs, was all so good. Also this morning a flock of Parrot's came flying over our house, squeaking real loud, I told my husband they were saying "Happy Valentines Day" all you people. They are so green, even with my bad eye site, I could see how green they are, they don't fly very high, so they are easy to see !!! They must have nests in the Palm trees two street over, that would be fun to see a Parrots nest. Some people don't like them, because their so noisy, but I don't sleep as much as I use to, or as much as I would like to, so they can squeak as much as they want to. It seems the older I get the more I appreciate birds, well, really most wild life, they are so much fun to watch. When we used to go up to Winchester Bay to a RV park in our motor-home, in Oregon, we used to see Canadian Geese as they stopped to rest on their way to or from Canada. Depends on if we went in the spring, or Fall, they were always resting in this big field, also their was some elk in that same field too. We haven't traveled in our motor home for over three years now, we were talking about maybe taking a few short trips this year, it depends on our health, but no more long trips for us, just can't do it anymore. All of you, have a good day, just do something you like doing !!! Sully, in Beautiful Sunny California http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

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Dear Friends I want to wish you all a very nice Valentines Day, My sweetheart of 56 years, made me breakfast this morning, pancakes, sausage, and eggs, was all so good. Also this morning a flock of Parrot's came flying over our house, squeaking real loud, I told my husband they were saying "Happy Valentines Day" all you people. They are so green, even with my bad eye site, I could see how green they are, they don't fly very high, so they are easy to see !!! They must have nests in the Palm trees two street over, that would be fun to see a Parrots nest. Some people don't like them, because their so noisy, but I don't sleep as much as I use to, or as much as I would like to, so they can squeak as much as they want to. It seems the older I get the more I appreciate birds, well, really most wild life, they are so much fun to watch. When we used to go up to Winchester Bay to a RV park in our motor-home, in Oregon, we used to see Canadian Geese as they stopped to rest on their way to or from Canada. Depends on if we went in the spring, or Fall, they were always resting in this big field, also their was some elk in that same field too. We haven't traveled in our motor home for over three years now, we were talking about maybe taking a few short trips this year, it depends on our health, but no more long trips for us, just can't do it anymore. All of you, have a good day, just do something you like doing !!! Sully, in Beautiful Sunny California

No, not all nursing homes are like that, but unfortunately many of them are. My grandmother's sister was in a home years ago that did not provide the wonderful service my grandmother had. You expect a certain level of care, but it is often not provided. The occupational and physical therapy will be great because it will keep her moving and give her something to look forward to, and make her feel better in the long run. Just make sure the therapist who comes really gets her moving and doing things. Some of them have a mindset that the person is old, so why make them do much... Lisa > -----Original Message----- > From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane- > bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of grandbanna > Sent: Thursday, February 13, 2014 9:42 AM > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Subject: Re: [ML] mother > > The nursing homes in our area are anything but acceptable in my > estimation. One of them was shut down because they wouldn't hire > enough staff to care for the residents. That nursing home always > smelled so bad. My mother's brother is in another one in our town. I > am his POA and have to stay on them constantly about one major issue > after another. The administrator there talked him into signing a DNR > (without my knowledge) because she told him they would break his ribs > and puncture his lungs if they had to do CPR for any reason. It took > me a week but I finally got that mess straightened out. The third > nursing home was built a couple of years ago by man from a nearby town. > He is a crook but can sugar coat everything. He walked off and left a > $500,000.00 debt on the one he had run for years. It was run down and > the care was undesirable. About three weeks ago one of my lifelong > friends who is bedfast and unaware of most things due to strokes was > raped by an aide there. ! > Her family is mortified. Daddy was in that home for almost a week > for rehab after surgery. He is still waiting for that rehab. He took > pneumonia from force feeding and ended up in the hospital. Reasons > like the above are why I kept him at home. He was happy, comfortable > and at peace at home. I now hope and pray that I can keep my sweet > Mother at home as long as possible. I think about all the things she > and Daddy have done for me during my lifetime and now it's my turn. > The home health nurse is recommending occupational and physical therapy > for her so that she can adjust to my home. > > Maybe I should keep my mouth shut about those things. Not all nursing > homes are like these. > > Martha > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Lisa Lepore <lisa.lepore2@gmail.com> > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Sent: Thu, 13 Feb 2014 08:04:43 -0500 (EST) > Subject: Re: [ML] mother > > You shouldn't blame yourself for anything. Easier said than done, but > there's nothing you could have done to have changed anything in that > situation. > > What is amazing to me is the idea that it's more normal to send the > elderly to a nursing home rather than trying to keep them in their own > homes. These people who think one might receive better care in a > nursing home should spend some time at one. > > My grandmother was in a very nice nursing home for the last few months > of her life. The Aides there were very good, the place was very clean, > etc. But my grandmother couldn't advocate for herself, so you always > had the feeling that if you weren't there every day asking questions, > and requesting services, these things wouldn't be done. > > It's wonderful you were able to keep your father at home. > > Lisa > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane- > > bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of grandbanna > > Sent: Tuesday, February 11, 2014 2:19 PM > > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > > Subject: Re: [ML] mother > > > > Thank you Barb. She tells me over and over that he lunged forward and > > part of his body was off of the bed. She tried to lift him but > > couldn't. He took about two breaths and died. My son is an ER nurse. > > He said that sometimes when a person has a pulmonary embolus or a > > heart attack they do shift forward. I was afraid that the lunge > > forward caused his death but it didn't. It's still extremely hard for > > me to hear her relive this, but she needs to talk about it. Since he > > died at home, the sheriff's department had to investigate. They said > > all was okay and they didn't see anything out of the ordinary. I > > blamed myself for not being there. We often left them for a couple of > > hours at the time but always stayed in touch by phone. There would > > have been nothing that I could have done if I had been here and I am > > at peace with that but it still hurts me. The young sheriff's deputy > > questioned me as to why he wasn't in a nursing home where he could > > have been cared for. The constable! > > is a very good friend of ours and jumped to my defense. The deputy > > called the sheriff who was a good friend to my dad. He told him the > > same thing. They both commented on how well he had been cared for. > > > > Martha > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: Barbara Mangan > > To: MEMORY-LANE@rootsweb.com > > Sent: Mon, 10 Feb 2014 22:27:59 -0500 (EST) > > Subject: [ML] mother > > > > Martha, don't think about everything that you have to do. Take one > > thing a time or you will go nuts and don't look ahead so much. I am > > sure your mum has a hundred things going around in her mind to. Maybe > > sit and listen to each other. When and if she cries leave her alone > so > > that she can cry hard and loud when she is alone. Peace of mind will > > come soon. > > Barb

The nursing homes in our area are anything but acceptable in my estimation. One of them was shut down because they wouldn't hire enough staff to care for the residents. That nursing home always smelled so bad. My mother's brother is in another one in our town. I am his POA and have to stay on them constantly about one major issue after another. The administrator there talked him into signing a DNR (without my knowledge) because she told him they would break his ribs and puncture his lungs if they had to do CPR for any reason. It took me a week but I finally got that mess straightened out. The third nursing home was built a couple of years ago by man from a nearby town. He is a crook but can sugar coat everything. He walked off and left a $500,000.00 debt on the one he had run for years. It was run down and the care was undesirable. About three weeks ago one of my lifelong friends who is bedfast and unaware of most things due to strokes was raped by an aide there. Her family is mortified. Daddy was in that home for almost a week for rehab after surgery. He is still waiting for that rehab. He took pneumonia from force feeding and ended up in the hospital. Reasons like the above are why I kept him at home. He was happy, comfortable and at peace at home. I now hope and pray that I can keep my sweet Mother at home as long as possible. I think about all the things she and Daddy have done for me during my lifetime and now it's my turn. The home health nurse is recommending occupational and physical therapy for her so that she can adjust to my home. Maybe I should keep my mouth shut about those things. Not all nursing homes are like these. Martha ----- Original Message ----- From: Lisa Lepore <lisa.lepore2@gmail.com> To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com Sent: Thu, 13 Feb 2014 08:04:43 -0500 (EST) Subject: Re: [ML] mother You shouldn't blame yourself for anything. Easier said than done, but there's nothing you could have done to have changed anything in that situation. What is amazing to me is the idea that it's more normal to send the elderly to a nursing home rather than trying to keep them in their own homes. These people who think one might receive better care in a nursing home should spend some time at one. My grandmother was in a very nice nursing home for the last few months of her life. The Aides there were very good, the place was very clean, etc. But my grandmother couldn't advocate for herself, so you always had the feeling that if you weren't there every day asking questions, and requesting services, these things wouldn't be done. It's wonderful you were able to keep your father at home. Lisa > -----Original Message----- > From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane- > bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of grandbanna > Sent: Tuesday, February 11, 2014 2:19 PM > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Subject: Re: [ML] mother > > Thank you Barb. She tells me over and over that he lunged forward and > part of his body was off of the bed. She tried to lift him but > couldn't. He took about two breaths and died. My son is an ER nurse. > He said that sometimes when a person has a pulmonary embolus or a heart > attack they do shift forward. I was afraid that the lunge forward > caused his death but it didn't. It's still extremely hard for me to > hear her relive this, but she needs to talk about it. Since he died at > home, the sheriff's department had to investigate. They said all was > okay and they didn't see anything out of the ordinary. I blamed myself > for not being there. We often left them for a couple of hours at the > time but always stayed in touch by phone. There would have been > nothing that I could have done if I had been here and I am at peace > with that but it still hurts me. The young sheriff's deputy > questioned me as to why he wasn't in a nursing home where he could have > been cared for. The constable! > is a very good friend of ours and jumped to my defense. The deputy > called the sheriff who was a good friend to my dad. He told him the > same thing. They both commented on how well he had been cared for. > > Martha > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Barbara Mangan > To: MEMORY-LANE@rootsweb.com > Sent: Mon, 10 Feb 2014 22:27:59 -0500 (EST) > Subject: [ML] mother > > Martha, don't think about everything that you have to do. Take one > thing a time or you will go nuts and don't look ahead so much. I am > sure your mum has a hundred things going around in her mind to. Maybe > sit and listen to each other. When and if she cries leave her alone so > that she can cry hard and loud when she is alone. Peace of mind will > come soon. > Barb http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

You shouldn't blame yourself for anything. Easier said than done, but there's nothing you could have done to have changed anything in that situation. What is amazing to me is the idea that it's more normal to send the elderly to a nursing home rather than trying to keep them in their own homes. These people who think one might receive better care in a nursing home should spend some time at one. My grandmother was in a very nice nursing home for the last few months of her life. The Aides there were very good, the place was very clean, etc. But my grandmother couldn't advocate for herself, so you always had the feeling that if you weren't there every day asking questions, and requesting services, these things wouldn't be done. It's wonderful you were able to keep your father at home. Lisa > -----Original Message----- > From: memory-lane-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:memory-lane- > bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of grandbanna > Sent: Tuesday, February 11, 2014 2:19 PM > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com > Subject: Re: [ML] mother > > Thank you Barb. She tells me over and over that he lunged forward and > part of his body was off of the bed. She tried to lift him but > couldn't. He took about two breaths and died. My son is an ER nurse. > He said that sometimes when a person has a pulmonary embolus or a heart > attack they do shift forward. I was afraid that the lunge forward > caused his death but it didn't. It's still extremely hard for me to > hear her relive this, but she needs to talk about it. Since he died at > home, the sheriff's department had to investigate. They said all was > okay and they didn't see anything out of the ordinary. I blamed myself > for not being there. We often left them for a couple of hours at the > time but always stayed in touch by phone. There would have been > nothing that I could have done if I had been here and I am at peace > with that but it still hurts me. The young sheriff's deputy > questioned me as to why he wasn't in a nursing home where he could have > been cared for. The constable! > is a very good friend of ours and jumped to my defense. The deputy > called the sheriff who was a good friend to my dad. He told him the > same thing. They both commented on how well he had been cared for. > > Martha > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: Barbara Mangan <tipperboo12@gmail.com> > To: MEMORY-LANE@rootsweb.com > Sent: Mon, 10 Feb 2014 22:27:59 -0500 (EST) > Subject: [ML] mother > > Martha, don't think about everything that you have to do. Take one > thing a time or you will go nuts and don't look ahead so much. I am > sure your mum has a hundred things going around in her mind to. Maybe > sit and listen to each other. When and if she cries leave her alone so > that she can cry hard and loud when she is alone. Peace of mind will > come soon. > Barb

That is why I am glad I was out and don't remember much. Only way to do it. Louise ----- Original Message ----- From: "Connie Leaman" <R.leaman@comcast.net> To: <memory-lane@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, February 11, 2014 6:57 PM Subject: Re: [ML] Finally, next > Had both eyes done last year (about 6 weeks apart). Piece of cake, > although > the idea of people poking things in your eyes is a little scary. > > Connie > > Monday I will have cataract surgery on one of my eyes... I have waited > years for this and plan to enjoy the end result. Have had cataracts for > many years but each year after my eye exam, the doctor says they aren't > ready for surgery... Grrrrrrr > On Friday of last week, I saw an eye specialist for another problem. He > asked if I'd noticed my vision worsening. Of course I said "Yes". > Apparently he sent my eye doctor a report and in it, told him my cataracts > had gotten much worse. I got a phone call on Wed. this week suggesting > that I come in to discuss cataract surgery... Can anyone tell how thrilled > I am? lol > > The Dougster > > > > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message

So glad things went good for you Doug now days it usually goes good for most people. just want to make sure you have a good Dr. Louise ----- Original Message ----- From: "Doug Crim" <ddcrim@gmail.com> To: "memory-lane" <memory-lane@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, February 11, 2014 12:35 PM Subject: Re: [ML] Finally, next >I appreciate everyone's good wishes. I had the left eye done yesterday and > I can already see a difference in my vision. We do the other eye next > Wed. > I am looking forward to it. (pun iintended) > > :-)*** > > > On Tue, Feb 11, 2014 at 11:40 AM, grace gathman > <grace.gathman@gmail.com>wrote: > >> It's very common to have to go back a year or so after a cataract surgery >> and a film has grown over the lens that is put in. The handy dandy lazar >> just clears it up in a few seconds. When I had my appointment the surgeon >> had just gotten the new piece of equipment and he was like a little boy >> with a new toy. When he was through, he said he still got a thrill being >> able to make people see better after all the years he has been doing it. >> If >> you are having problems ALWAYS go back or find another doctor. Grace >> >> >> On Tue, Feb 11, 2014 at 10:25 AM, Neysa <gramneysa@ct.metrocast.net> >> wrote: >> >> > My doc said they "vacuum" the old cataract out now. >> > Neysa >> > ----- Original Message ----- >> > From: Barbara Mangan >> > To: memory-lane@rootsweb.com >> > Sent: Monday, February 10, 2014 9:51 PM >> > Subject: Re: [ML] Finally, next >> > >> > >> > I had one eye done about 18 yrs and it was terrible. I got 3 shots >> > in >> my >> > face and one of them looked like a dagger, its was novocaine. A lot >> > of >> > pain >> > with the shots. Then he accidently cuts my eye where he should not >> > have >> > cut >> > it. Eye very painful after that. Second eye was done about 16 yrs. >> ago >> > . >> > The procedure was completely different than the first. He put about >> > 10 >> > drops in my eye and they numbed it and there no shots. A couple days >> > later >> > I saw all these specks moving all over my eye. I got scared and so I >> > called the doctor and he told me that they were the cataract he blew >> up. >> > A >> > couple of weeks later, vision in that eye wasn't good. Called doctor >> and >> > he told me that he would do a laser treatment on it. I was scared >> > to >> > death because I didn't know what he was going to do. The laser >> treatment >> > was hardly anything. I could see better. However, years later >> > vision >> > wasn't good and I couldn't see as well as I did before. They looked >> like >> > to me like they were growing back but the doctor said my eyes were >> > ok. >> > He's nuts just like my poditrist. I have talked with a few people >> > who >> > had >> > cataracts removed they all said the same thing about not seeing as >> > well >> > as >> > before. >> > I hope Doug that you have a good experience and you keep seeing well. >> > Let >> > us know >> > Barb >> > >> > >> > On Mon, Feb 10, 2014 at 12:12 PM, Neysa <gramneysa@ct.metrocast.net> >> > wrote: >> > >> > > I remember the day that I was set up for cataract surgery. I was >> > > delighted. And even more so after the operation. Go, Doug!! >> > > Neysa >> > > ----- Original Message ----- >> > > From: Doug Crim >> > > To: an-internet-family >> > > Sent: Friday, February 07, 2014 11:01 AM >> > > Subject: [ML] Finally, next >> > > >> > > >> > > Monday I will have cataract surgery on one of my eyes... I have >> > waited >> > > years for this and plan to enjoy the end result. Have had >> cataracts >> > for >> > > many years but each year after my eye exam, the doctor says they >> > aren't >> > > ready for surgery... Grrrrrrr >> > > On Friday of last week, I saw an eye specialist for another >> problem. >> > He >> > > asked if I'd noticed my vision worsening. Of course I said >> > "Yes". >> > > Apparently he sent my eye doctor a report and in it, told him my >> > > cataracts >> > > had gotten much worse. I got a phone call on Wed. this week >> > suggesting >> > > that I come in to discuss cataract surgery... Can anyone tell how >> > > thrilled >> > > I am? lol >> > > >> > > The Dougster >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > ------------------------------- >> > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to >> > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' >> > without >> > the >> > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > ------------------------------- >> > > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to >> > > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' >> > without >> > the >> > > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >> > > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm >> > >> > >> > >> > ------------------------------- >> > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to >> > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without >> > the >> > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm >> > >> > >> > >> > ------------------------------- >> > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to >> > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without >> > the >> > quotes in the subject and the body of the message >> > >> >> >> >> >> >> http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm >> >> >> >> ------------------------------- >> To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to >> MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the >> quotes in the subject and the body of the message >> > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Yes, she needs to talk it out. My mom was with my brother and his wife when she was having alot of heart problems. She wanted to go home, my sister in law had took her into the Dr. and she was saying she wanted to move back home. It was maybe a quarter of a mile down the road. He looked at my sis in law and shook his head and she said well why don't you stay through the week end and then we will see how things are going. I think it was that night, I think she tried to get out of bed and just hit the floor. Big heart attack. They both ran in there, my brother had the training and was giving her mouth to mouth and doing the comprssions while his wife was on the phone with 911 but she was gone when she hit the floor. I think when they die at home they have to investigate as there are so many old people that are abused. Of course if they don't know you it can get a little sticky I imagine. I think they asked questions about moms death, I would imagine contacted the Dr. also. My dad just laid down on the couch and went to sleep. My poor mom wasn't sure what was going on at first, then she realized he wasn't breathing and called 911 and my brother to come. Poor mom, she kept telling me there wasn't any thing she could do and I knew that, but she was just in shock. But when you get old things happen. My husband is 84 and I am 82 so you don't know if you are going to wake up or not. Things will get better for her and you as time goes by. Louise ----- Original Message ----- From: "grandbanna" <grandbanna@hughes.net> To: <memory-lane@rootsweb.com> Sent: Tuesday, February 11, 2014 11:18 AM Subject: Re: [ML] mother > Thank you Barb. She tells me over and over that he lunged forward and > part of his body was off of the bed. She tried to lift him but couldn't. > He took about two breaths and died. My son is an ER nurse. He said that > sometimes when a person has a pulmonary embolus or a heart attack they do > shift forward. I was afraid that the lunge forward caused his death but it > didn't. It's still extremely hard for me to hear her relive this, but she > needs to talk about it. Since he died at home, the sheriff's department > had to investigate. They said all was okay and they didn't see anything > out of the ordinary. I blamed myself for not being there. We often left > them for a couple of hours at the time but always stayed in touch by > phone. There would have been nothing that I could have done if I had been > here and I am at peace with that but it still hurts me. The young > sheriff's deputy questioned me as to why he wasn't in a nursing home where > he could have been cared for. The constable! > > is a very good friend of ours and jumped to my defense. The deputy > called the sheriff who was a good friend to my dad. He told him the same > thing. They both commented on how well he had been cared for. > > Martha > > -----/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message

Had both eyes done last year (about 6 weeks apart). Piece of cake, although the idea of people poking things in your eyes is a little scary. Connie Monday I will have cataract surgery on one of my eyes... I have waited years for this and plan to enjoy the end result. Have had cataracts for many years but each year after my eye exam, the doctor says they aren't ready for surgery... Grrrrrrr On Friday of last week, I saw an eye specialist for another problem. He asked if I'd noticed my vision worsening. Of course I said "Yes". Apparently he sent my eye doctor a report and in it, told him my cataracts had gotten much worse. I got a phone call on Wed. this week suggesting that I come in to discuss cataract surgery... Can anyone tell how thrilled I am? lol The Dougster

This is a good idea. I know the service people don't make the kind of money most people think they make. Grandson is in the navy and they have two little ones. Making a house payment. Two kids in school. Lunches at school aren't cheap. Two vehicles because he has to have one and she needs one to take the kids to school. So alot of expences out even though they shop at the commisary and any place they can cheap, But they are getting by. He has four more years and will retire at 22 years I think it is as he had to extend beyond his 20 years to get a ship based in San Diego. Thank goodness as it isn't good for a marriage to have them across the country all the time. Still has his time at sea, but ship comes back to San Diego. He has to go back to school as he was alway on Destroyers and this time it will be a smaller ship so has to learn some different things with the engines. So this will be interesting, at least the school is in San Diego and not across country. Eventually he will have to go when the ship is built and comes alive with the guys on board. Interesting life. He will be early 40's when he gets out and can still go in another direction if he wants to. As you see I am kind of proud of him. I had one brother that went in the navy in July 1941. He put in 30 years and retired Chief. During WW2 he was a gunner in dive bombers, in the south pacific on the USS Enterprise. Later he served on the next Enterprise they built. But that one was in the atlantic area. Louise ----- Original Message ----- From: "Barbara Mangan" <tipperboo12@gmail.com> To: <MEMORY-LANE@rootsweb.com> Sent: Monday, February 10, 2014 7:50 PM Subject: [ML] service men and women > Boy, I'm hot tonight. Would you like to do something for the service men > and women of this wonderful country? I will type it out for you. > > If you have manufacurer coupons thaat are current --or are no more than > three months past their expiration date---for groceries, baby products, > pet > food. toiletries and other common household items, give them to: > > Support Our Troops. > P.O.Box 70 > Daytona Beach > FL 32115-0070 > > This nonprofit organization will send them to military families stationed > overseas, who can use manufacturer coupons to stretch their dollars for up > to six months after they expire at military commissaries. Learn more at > SupportOurTroops.org > Could you please pass this on please. > Barb > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message

It seems I heard about this but just not sure. I think that is just great. They put their life on the line every day like the officers do and go in figuring they are going to get the guy no matter what he has in his hand. They are so loyal to their partner. They should have the same thing the officer would have for death. I would cry over that one I think. It is so sad loosing a dog any way. We have the cocker spaniel aka (black grandchild) Cleo buried among the rose bushes. She has rocks around her grave and in the summer I keep a fern on it. Also potted fake flowers. She knew the word grandma because if they even talked about grandma she would get all excited. she knew she had fun here and we were around all the time, where they both work. She was just such a mellow and loyal dog, really a scardey cat when it came to other dogs. She was so funny one time when I kept her and I walked down the road to get the mail. Had her on her leash. She was fine until we got to where other dogs were across a fence. She got on the other side of me away from them. stayed right with my leg, not ahead or behind. Walking along with her nose in the air, I don't see you. Just loved her. Now they have a lab and something else mixed that is a big dog. She is ok, but she is very outgoing. Of course alot bigger than Cleo was. But her husband wanted another dog, Carol wasn't ready yet and he wanted a big dog. Now he is kind of second thinking it. She is making him go with her for walks so he can handle her. They can only do it on the weekend because they both work early. She makes him go out and play with her. I told her good for you. But I said no more dog sitting. After my little Cleo that was enough. Couldn't handle another one dying even though hers was old age. Louise ----- Original Message ----- From: "Barbara Mangan" <tipperboo12@gmail.com> To: <MEMORY-LANE@rootsweb.com> Sent: Monday, February 10, 2014 7:07 PM Subject: [ML] police dog >I don't if you heard about our 'Rocco' . He was a police canine dog who > even wore a badge. Rocco was sniffing out a criminal and the guy stabbed > him with a knife. Poor Rocco lived only for a few days. They got the guy > he didn't look to well. The city cellebrated his life with a very long > precession of officers and their canine friends. The first officer walked > holding a picture of Rocco and the second officer held his ashes. Behind > them was a long of police and police cars. Sympathy that went out to this > precious animal was beyond belief. They had a service for him at the > Sailor's and Soldier's Memorial building. Rest in peace Rocco, you got > your man. > Barb > > > > > > http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mbousman1/memory.htm > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > MEMORY-LANE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message