In a message dated 11/2/02 5:52:22 PM, Rosamundi4@dragonbbs.com writes: << Strange how there is one child that can handle grief and ones that can't. Always thought my youngest to be very strong, but when talk of final arrangements he couldn't. >> Jackie: We just never know how we are going to handle grief until we are there! If Len goes before I do, I'm sure it will be Chris who will be of help to me. But, then, that is a different situation. I had to handle arrangements for my father because my mother couldn't or didn't want to face it. An uncle went with me, thank God! It wasn't easy but I knew it had to be done and we did it before Daddy died. My uncle said I wouldn't be fit to handle it after. He was right but I sure felt like I'd done something bad behind Daddy's back because I kept telling him he was going to be okay. Yes, prayers work. But, sometimes the answer is "no." Love, Sandi