> Dear Family: > > As you all now know through private email from Pat, I've put her on monitor. > It has nothing to do with Pat's religious nor political leanings. We all > have a right to believe as we choose and belong to the political party of our > choice. > > The reason, instead, for the monitoring is the fact that Pat either feels it > is her duty or is compelled to correct another member's spelling and/or > sentence structure, and she comes across as if her opinions are the only ones > important, which are intimidating to some. Pat does not have the final word > on this list. This has caused a number of list members to just lurk for fear > of being corrected. Some may not be as well educated as others, but, we > should all be accepted, just the same, because WE ARE FAMILY. Well, at least I now know what the "problem" is. Referring to correcting people's spelling, Sandi, you should KNOW that I haven't done this since last February! Can you produce a single post where I have corrected somebody's spelling since then? No, you cannot, because I stopped doing that months ago. As for "coming across as if her opinions are the only ones important", please tell me just how I have done that. That is a perception issue on the part of the receiver, not on my part. I have never said that my opinions are the only ones important. I, too, am part of this family, and deserve to be accepted and not condemned for my opinions, you know. > This list was formed so we could chat. This seems to work for everyone > except Pat. She grabs onto something and won't let go of it. This isn't a > debate list! This isn't a serious think tank, it is a family chat list AND > that is the way it will STAY. And just how do I "grab onto something and won't let go of it?" I am only replying to something that you have posted, e.g., the rent control issue in California. You posted an opinion and I posted mine---only my opinion was not the same as yours.... What am I supposed to do--not reply at all in case you might not like what I have to say? Is that one of the rules that if YOU post on a topic then I should just not post at all? Isn't back and forth posting the essence of "chat?" > > Listowners each run their lists according to their own rules. I run 10 lists > on Rootsweb, two being chat lists. My main rules are NO FLAME WARS, be > polite and respectful of others feelings and getting along. That isn't too > much to expect. If the rules are not abided by my next step is to always > remove the offender and put them on the reject list. I have not "flamed" anybody. I have been polite and respectful of others. According to the people with whom I have chatted, I AM getting along. Would you please show me where I have not followed these rules which you are just now talking about? Is there also a rule about going to the listowner and complaining in secret about somebody without giving that person a chance to respond? > Maybe it would help some to consider all on this list as friends. We must > treat our friends well or we wouldn't have any. So, let's get on with it and > this subject stops here! > > Cuz Sandi > List Mom The only way we can "get on with it" would be for you to stop censoring my posts. It will be interesting to see if you post my comments on this to the chat list. I, for one, am tired of this smear campaign. The people I have contacted have ALL said they agree with me. How about posting this so everyone can see---and get everybody's comments out in the open, for once? You know, like a real discussion.... Pat