Gang: I've been listening to KABC radio and they are talking now about the Russians wanting to take their "marbles" and going home. My feeling is, so do it! Gees, one would think they could act more like adults! I haven't kept up with the Olympics, just hear what has happened on the radio. Ho hum time for me. This stuff is, to my way of thinking, so tainted by those who do the judging. I guess one would have to watch it all on TV to see who one thought should really get the medals. I feel sorry for the honest young people at the Olympics who are doing their best. Sandi

We drove down to Woodland Hills to Fry's, Pat's very favorite store (LOL) today so Kitten (daughter Kathleen) could buy the newest top of the line Apple computer and monitor. Also, she bought a zip drive. YES! Now she can get her files off this Mac and put them on hers. And, we can both save photo files, etc. to get them off the Mac. I have a number of photos I've cleaned up that I don't want to delete. The others will be deleted since the originals were okay. She sure is having fun getting her Mac all set up. Sandi

In a message dated 2/20/02 4:26:33 PM, [email protected] writes: << You'll have > to wait nine months, though. You got pregnant last night >> Vicki: PRICELESS! Sandi

Good one Sandi! Vicki

A man was sick and tired of going to work every day > while his wife stayed home. He wanted her to see what he > went through so he prayed, Dear Lord, I go to work > every day and put in 8 hours while my wife merely stays at > home. I want her to know what I go through, so please > create a trade in our bodies.. > > God, in his infinite wisdom, granted the man's wish.. > The next morning, sure enough, the man awoke as a woman.. > He arose, cooked breakfast for his mate, awakened the > kids, set out their school clothes, fed them breakfast, > packed their lunches, drove them to school, came home and > picked up the dry cleaning, took it to the cleaners > and stopped at the bank to make a deposit, went grocery > shopping, then drove home to put away the groceries, > paid the bills and balance the check book. He > cleaned the cat's litter box and bathed the dog. Then it was > already 1p.m. and he hurried to make the beds, do the > laundry, vacuum, dust, and sweep and mop the kitchen floor.. > > Ran to the school to pick up the kids and got into > an argument with them on the way home. Set out cookies > and milk and got the kids organized to do their > homework, then set up the ironing board and watched TV while > he did the ironing. At 4:30 he began peeling potatoes > and washing vegetables for salad, breaded the pork chops > and snapped fresh beans for supper.. > > After supper he cleaned the kitchen, ran the > dishwasher, folded laundry, bathed the kids, and put them to bed. > At 9 p.m. he was exhausted and, though his daily chores > weren't finished, he went to bed where he was > expected to make love" which he managed to get through > without complaint.. > > The next morning he awoke and immediately knelt by > the bed and said, Lord, I don't know what I was > thinking. I was so wrong to envy my wife's being able to stay > home all day. Please, oh please, let us trade back.. > > The Lord, in his infinite wisdom, replied, My son, I > feel you have learned your lesson and I will be > happy to change things back to the way they were. You'll have > to wait nine months, though. You got pregnant last night

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Sandi, I also was alone with my Daddy when he died. It was so peaceful and he just looked so at rest. I have treasured that time and am so thankful I sent everyone else home to get some sleep and stayed right beside his bed. Tho he was in a coma, my two daughters from out of town had called and we put the phone to his ear and let them talk, and the daughter and son that live here had both been at the hospital. Mother had died exactly a month earlier and we hadn't told Daddy. He no longer knew who she was, etc. but I have been told that even in a coma, the last sense to leave is hearing, so we talked to him a lot. After everyone else had gone I started wondering if in the back of his mind he still felt the need to take care of Mother, so I told him she was already gone and waiting for him when he was ready and he died within 30 minutes. I will always believe he heard me and understood. Well, we have certainly gotten on a sad subject here. Mary ----- Original Message ----- From: <[email protected]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Tuesday, February 19, 2002 8:15 PM Subject: [MAUPIN-CHAT] Funeral photos > > In a message dated 2/19/02 6:11:41 PM, [email protected] writes: > > << Strange, but with my close family, I was so upset, I didn't take pictures. > I > never got funeral cards or anything relating to it. >> > > Jackie: > > I was with my Daddy, alone, when he died. I saw what he looked like in > death. When we went to his funeral his casket was open before for viewing > and closed during the service. I couldn't make myself go look at him, I was > so torn up. Now I wish I had. Everyone said he looked great. > > We are all different and have a right to act differently in the same > situations. > > Sandi > > > ==== MAUPIN-CHAT Mailing List ==== > Personalized Mailing Lists: never miss a connection again. > <http://pml.rootsweb.com> > Brought to you by RootsWeb.com. > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 >

In a message dated 2/19/02 6:11:41 PM, [email protected] writes: << Strange, but with my close family, I was so upset, I didn't take pictures. I never got funeral cards or anything relating to it. >> Jackie: I was with my Daddy, alone, when he died. I saw what he looked like in death. When we went to his funeral his casket was open before for viewing and closed during the service. I couldn't make myself go look at him, I was so torn up. Now I wish I had. Everyone said he looked great. We are all different and have a right to act differently in the same situations. Sandi

Sandi. Strange, but with my close family, I was so upset, I didn't take pictures. I never got funeral cards or anything relating to it. I wish I had taken some of my father, I don't have one of him as an older person and my children were very young at the time. I took pictures of the relatives that were there but after the funeral. My sisters funeral was a complete blur. Jackie

We went to the Stage Coach Inn in Thousand Oaks as they give tours now that it is a museum. It has quite a history and is reported to be haunted. There were photos on the walls of people from over one hundred years ago that looked normal until we found out they were death photos. Apparently it was common to take photos and then paint open eyes on them. Then it seemed sorta eerie. Part of my family have tons of casket photos but they took them in private, not at the funerals. Sandi

When my Mother in law died, I was hesitant to take a picture of her. My husband wanted one so we took it early. Her sister wasn't at the funeral and wanted a picture of her and also of the flowers she sent, Jackie

It was unclear. I personally have taken pictures of the deceased before and after the funeral. I also have taken many pictures of the people at the funeral. Some are of relatives that those are the only pictures I have. Jackie

In a message dated 2/19/02 5:02:11 PM, [email protected] writes: << But I have told all my family if they try to take pictures of me dead, I will raise up and scare the living daylights out of them, or at the very least come back and haunt them!!!! >> Mary: How scary! Sandi

In a message dated 2/19/02 4:09:18 PM, [email protected] writes: << I expect Sandi Carter to show up at my funeral with a camera for no other reason but to be sure.. . >> BF: Have camera, will travel! I am still waiting to hear the story of why the woman was upset since we still don't know the particulars. Some families take photos of the dead and others don't. Sandi

I have a problem with pictures taken of people in their caskets. Wouldn't you rather remember them alive? I have an uncle that insists on video taping every family funeral. I ask him not to for my mother and father. Pictures are suppose to bring happy memories. Having said that, I do have a couple of pictures of infants, in their little caskets, at the cemetery. I haven't been able to pinpoint exactly who they are and plan to research that my next trip to Altus OK, but they are either Maupin children or Welch children.They way they were dressed and the way the cemetery looked may help me date the photos and thus identify them. But I have told all my family if they try to take pictures of me dead, I will raise up and scare the living daylights out of them, or at the very least come back and haunt them!!!! Now pictures of family around the tombstones is a different deal....I have identified some people just by whose grave they were at. Mary

I would like to comment regarding funeral photos. Small, close, family funerals would not be appropriate. Large, Public funerals where Public figures in death, and the only one not having to be invited, SHOULD be photographed. I expect Sandi Carter to show up at my funeral with a camera for no other reason but to be sure.. . B F MAUPIN . ----- Original Message ----- From: "Bonnie" <[email protected]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Tuesday, February 19, 2002 5:57 PM Subject: Re: [MAUPIN-CHAT] new subject, Pictures > This is only my personal opinion but as far as pictures of the deceased I > think it is totally wrong. I think that they would want to be remembered > alive rather than dead. Now if the pictures were of family members away > from the parlor and not during the funeral itself then that would be a > different subject as I understand how allot of families only gather when > something like that occurs. But not at a funeral. Then again as I said > this is only my opinion. My mother took photos of the deceased and we had > disagreements about that everytime she did. She finally got to where she > would only take them when no one else was around but still sent me to have > film developed so there went the disagreements again. > Bonnie > ----- Original Message ----- > From: <[email protected]> > To: <[email protected]> > Sent: Tuesday, February 19, 2002 11:03 AM > Subject: Re: [MAUPIN-CHAT] new subject, Pictures > > > > Was reading Dear Abby and someone wrote how upset they were that someone > took > > pictures at a funeral. What are the opinions off the group? Jackie > > > > > > ==== MAUPIN-CHAT Mailing List ==== > > RootsWeb forbids posting of copyrighted material without permission of the > author. Read RootsWeb's Acceptable Use Policy at > > <http://www,rootsweb.com/rootsweb/aup.html> > > > > ============================== > > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, > go to: > > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 > > > > > > > > ==== MAUPIN-CHAT Mailing List ==== > RootsWeb forbids posting of copyrighted material without permission of the author. Read RootsWeb's Acceptable Use Policy at > <http://www,rootsweb.com/rootsweb/aup.html> > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 >

This is only my personal opinion but as far as pictures of the deceased I think it is totally wrong. I think that they would want to be remembered alive rather than dead. Now if the pictures were of family members away from the parlor and not during the funeral itself then that would be a different subject as I understand how allot of families only gather when something like that occurs. But not at a funeral. Then again as I said this is only my opinion. My mother took photos of the deceased and we had disagreements about that everytime she did. She finally got to where she would only take them when no one else was around but still sent me to have film developed so there went the disagreements again. Bonnie ----- Original Message ----- From: <[email protected]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Tuesday, February 19, 2002 11:03 AM Subject: Re: [MAUPIN-CHAT] new subject, Pictures > Was reading Dear Abby and someone wrote how upset they were that someone took > pictures at a funeral. What are the opinions off the group? Jackie > > > ==== MAUPIN-CHAT Mailing List ==== > RootsWeb forbids posting of copyrighted material without permission of the author. Read RootsWeb's Acceptable Use Policy at > <http://www,rootsweb.com/rootsweb/aup.html> > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 > >

I resemble that remark. Norma

In a message dated 2/19/02 9:04:52 AM, [email protected] writes: << Was reading Dear Abby and someone wrote how upset they were that someone took pictures at a funeral. What are the opinions off the group? >> Were the photos taken of the deceased before or after the service or were photos taken of the people at the service? Need more information. Sandi

Was reading Dear Abby and someone wrote how upset they were that someone took pictures at a funeral. What are the opinions off the group? Jackie