Susan, Keep pluggin'! When my father died many years back, my mother went through a very similar situation and I remember she was quite "out of it" for a while and relied heavily on her friends...and they were in their 30's when he suffered wrongful death. Add in attorneys and you have quite the mess! It will get better. You know that. It just makes the loss so much harder when you have take the months after and pour what little energy you have into fighting with idiots who let their computers do their thinking! My MIL passed in Sept leaving my husband in charge of everything. Only she died in CA and we are in VA. It's been dreadful trying to get people to use their own minds and trying to "beat" the computer systems that only want fill-in-the-blank answers. Makes you want to pull your hair out. My hubby said the other day that it's been 3 months now and he isn't sure that he's even had time to miss his mother. What's amazing is that I worked in Elder Law and Estate Planning and even with my knowledge we are running around in circles. I feel badly for those that aren't aware of the hoops you have to jump through. I hope you have a fabulous group of friends surrounding you. After seeing how everyone on this list adores you, I am sure you must. Betting they are willing to go to the ends of the Earth for you - lean on them! Thinking of you and wishing you some Peace in the coming months! -Sarah > From: spice3@juno.com > Date: Fri, 3 Dec 2010 13:42:08 +0000 > To: lovelace@rootsweb.com > Subject: Re: [LL] Fri Dec 3, 2010 > > Mornin' Cuzzies, From what I've learned: a little word to the wise about friends and family wholose significant people: the one left has a new head that is not screwed on.I don't know why that is. One's ability to think constructively just goes totallyout the window. You repeat stuff all the time and ask the same questions overand over. I've now gotten to where I depend on several to think along w/ mebecause my ability to critically analyze just isn't here. I understand stronglythat it goes w/ the territory. So, if this happens in your family or to a closefriend, understand they are not into accute senility.....that's just the way it isfor awhile. And, I'm also told that all returns to normal by and by. So, if youwant to be of help, know that this is the drill.....it's normal. Ole Buckley was a whiz bang in the stock market, just making money hand overfist, from being self-educated.....read book after book and kept charts all overthis house, that I didn't! > know about. My learning curve on such is just waaaaytoo steep to take that up myself, so I bailed outta there about election time. Themarket may or may not crash, but certainly it will readjust. In the meantime thebank dept. he was w/ on these stocks is either highly incompentent or crooked asa dawg's hind leg. Getting his money away from the bank has been a real deal.Four and a half months after the fact, I'm still struggling to move his money tomy bank where I'm very well treated and very well cared for.....so, all my wakinghours are spent on this endeavor and that's why you aren't hearing from me much.It's a war! That's just one of the many problems which I will elaborate on later.....one needsto be aware because these situations are going to happen to almost everyone inthe next decade or so. None of us got outta kindergarden yesterday! o : Now you have a good one today! TGIF! ( : Susan > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to LOVELACE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message