It would behoove us to encourage people to find out where the researcher's equivalent of Gretna Green was. Historically, Gretna Green was just over the Scottish border and many English elopements went there because English people could be married quickly and easily, compared to the expensive or drawn out processes for marrying in England. Many places had a similar place where people went to be married quickly & quietly. Omaha couples frequently went to Glenwood in Mills county, Iowa because the marriages weren't reported in Omaha papers, and it could be done quietly. Modern drive times are only a little over half an hour from here, but I'm given to understand there are quite a few that married there. In working on our own county marriage records, a lot of people married in Douglas Co that were from across the river in Iowa, or from many other places around the nation. If it happened here, I know that it happened elsewhere as well. And people may not think to check here for their marriage if a couple lived out of state, or even from quite a bit further west in Nebraska. I'm sure that the fact that one can not always find the marriage record is one of the reasons that the Church accepts a couple as married if they lived together & had children, whether the descendant can find a marriage record or not. It's also true that under common law, people were recognized as married if they are considered married by the community and are living as man and wife, especially with children, even if no formal ceremony of any kind was performed. Karen In a message dated 4/5/2009 9:05:35 P.M. Central Daylight Time, mscscott28@yahoo.com writes: Karen's points are well taken and valuable. There are many times that there was a marriage but it just is hard to document. (My great-grandparents eloped from Chicago to Kenosha, Wisconsin. I could spend a long time looking for the marriage record in Chicago but would never find it there. It is in the county records for Kenosha County, Wisconsin.) In the question that was asked the child's parents were definitely not married. (See Suzanne's email below.) Mary Scott Northville Ward Westland Michigan Stake Detroit Michigan Temple ________________________________ From: "Sahara346@aol.com" <Sahara346@aol.com> To: lds-ward-consultant@rootsweb.com Sent: Sunday, April 5, 2009 7:54:52 PM Subject: Re: [LDS-WC] Sealing question... It might behoove us to remember that depending on the time period and area of the country the family was living in, they may have been married according to the social rules of the community, but no license issued because there was no courthouse, or perhaps the license was destroyed in a courthouse fire, or any number of things. We can't automatically assume because we can't find proof of the ceremony that there wasn't one. Sometimes there was, and sometimes there wasn't. Karen In a message dated 4/5/2009 6:41:53 P.M. Central Daylight Time, mscscott28@yahoo.com writes: Yes, the father may be sealed to his biological parents -- even though they were never married. Before the father is sealed to his parents, their individual ordinances need to be completed (which has been done already) and then the couple need to be sealed together as husband and wife. We have discussed this issue on the list before but it is so important that it comes up regularly. The Church has given unmarried couples the opportunity to be sealed together -- especially if they have had children. We have been advised that the sealing ordinance is critical even though we do not always understand why and how it works for the protection of the children. We need to remember that we are not to judge but just perform the ordinances. So if a couple is unmarried and has children together, then they may be sealed together. This is dependent on rights of precedence and privacy for all the parties involved. Questions should probably be directed to a temple president, his counselors, or the temple recorder. They will always know the latest information and policies. Mary Scott Northville Ward Westland Michigan Stake Detroit Michigan Temple ________________________________ From: "susanne@katskraft.com" <susanne@katskraft.com> To: lds-ward-consultant@rootsweb.com Sent: Sunday, April 5, 2009 7:04:00 PM Subject: [LDS-WC] Sealing question... Hello, I have a sister whose deceased father has been baptized and endowed...His parents had never married but did live together so can he be sealed to them as their son? 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