Thank you all for your advice and comments. They have been most helpful and I will pass them on to the person concerned. ----- Original Message ----- From: Mary S. Scott (Michigan) To: lds-ward-consultant@rootsweb.com Sent: Friday, April 10, 2009 9:38 AM Subject: Re: [LDS-WC] Reserving ordinances Please do not misunderstand me. I wasn't condoning what the cousin had done and hope someone doesn't think I was. I was just reminding us that the mother's work would have to be added by the daughter or the cousin into NFS if the mother was not a member. The daughter still has the rights of precedence. Sister Davis then related to us that the mother was NOT a member and that the cousin had indeed entered the information into NFS. The cousin's entering of the information does NOT give the cousin the right to reserve the work. The mother's work should not be reserved by the system until after the one year period. I am not in favor of putting information into NFS to fool the system. I am in favor of following the counsel of the Savior who challenged us to go to the person we are struggling with about a matter. We can go to these other submitters as much as possible. If we cannot work it out, then it is probably good to contact the family history and temple department as soon as is practical. If the daughter is too upset, perhaps another person could review the letter so her feelings and ideas are put forth in a compassionate and logical way. Sometimes a person with such a heartfelt concern should write a letter to her bishop or stake president. The priesthood leader will then forward the letter to the appropriate priesthood authorities in the area presidency, the presidency of the seventy, or wherever necessary. In addition, I would not be above contacting the cousin's bishop and asking if there is someone who can explain the rights of precedence to this cousin. Another thought: the one year waiting period is also a good time for the person who should be doing the ordinances to prepare for that opportunity. Be sure that there is a valid temple recommend for instance -- so that there isn't any need to put off the ordinance one more day than necessary. Mary Scott Northville Ward Westland Michigan Stake Detroit Michigan Temple ________________________________ From: Jorge Todeschini <jorgetodeschini@hotmail.com> To: lds-ward-consultant@rootsweb.com Sent: Friday, April 10, 2009 8:15:15 AM Subject: Re: [LDS-WC] Reserving ordinances Oh, please! I would NOT appreciate someone trying to jump in front of me to do temple work for my own mother (or father). If I said so, I would be lying. Please send the one word message SUBSCRIBE or UNSUBSCRIBE to LDS-WARD-CONSULTANT-L-REQUEST@ROOTSWEB.COM ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to LDS-WARD-CONSULTANT-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message