1st Comment Today I had to remind one member of my ward that she can't do anything about her own birth father because his wife is still living and has to wait until his wife is dead first, in accordance with the regulations David Samuelsen 2nd Comment If she is his stepmother, then he can do the work. If she is his mother, then He cannot. Steve Kelsey Donna's Comment I agree with Bro. Samuelson. According to the Knowledge Document 238faq0431htm in the Help Center in new FamilySearch Title: What are Church policies about temple ordinances and the new FamilySearch "To do ordinances for a deceased person born in the last 95 years, please obtain permission and honor the wishes of close relatives. Relatives may not want the ordinances performed or may want to do the ordinances themselves. The closest living relatives are, in this order: an undivorced spouse, an adult child, a parent, or a brother or sister "