Dear Kornegay List: The following msgs. are about flaming others. This is not an isolated incident because it has happened on the Kornegay list also. I have been keeping this quiet except for one or two but now I feel I need to say something about it. It is not acceptable on this list, nor should it be on ours. To say anything to someone for their way of speaking, or their presentation of a msg. is unkind and in my opinion and in the opinion of others it seems from these mgs, it is considered flaming. This has not happened to me but to another, by private e-mail. I won't name names but will publicly ask that you stop and consider what you have done! You may think it is funny and you are just kidding, but you are not in the other person's shoes. You may have an unsensitive nature but everyone is not made like you. We are all in this together and none of us have the answers or we wouldn't be on the list. To change another's e-maill message/heading without asking the person for permissin is uncalled for. It is stating that the other one doesn't know much. I myself would take offense to any change from another unless that other askem for my permission to do so. It is flat rude. There are beginners such as myself on the list and if I thought I would be watchdogged over every little thing that I did, I would not post onething. Please be aware of the way you say things and the tone of your message. To use the word "Sweetie" in a condescending way is chauvinistic(sic) and should be done away with. I hope that all on the Kornegay list doesn't take offense to this mgs. because it was not intended that way. I has been a very pleasant experience. In fact, I don't want anyone to take offense, but to stop the unkind words. Please, the ones who are involved do not e-mail me privately about this. You do however owe the other person an apology (at least private if not public),not condescending either, but a true apology. The Bible says that if a brother/sister is offended even if you didn't intend to do so, you should go to that bro/sister and ask forgiveness. Thank you for consideration in matter, Donna