Carolyn, You shouldn't feel that way. We are people, we are human and someone has had to do bad things or things that people like to keep in the closets and sometimes those bad things happen in our own families. Back in them days people tried to keep things closed up but we are more open minded now and can accept what our ancestors did or didn't do. My grandfather was a wanted man in Germany and he fled the country and went to the Gold Coast of Africa and worked in the Gold Mines until he could earn enough money to come to America. He went back into Germany to give my grandmother mother and then fled again. He may have been wanted for murder as the family tells it but he did that, not me and he had to suffer for his wrong doings in his life. He is answering to God for his wrong doings and now that is part of the history in our family. One of those little stories that add spice to life. Good or bad, I still loved him, he was after all, my grandfather. Some men had mega wives and mega kids and never got divorced. Some were murders and some paid for their mistakes. That is what history is all about. Gail

Try not to take it too much to heart. It is history. Every family has some black sheep. Your uncle may have already heard family rumors, etc, you never know. You just have to decide how much information to share with him. One of my favorite geneaology signature lines goes "If you have skeletons in your closet, you might as well make 'em dance!" Sorry I can't remember whose line it is. At least it's in the past; a member of my family has this past year committed acts so atrocious as to be worthy of a Jerry Springer episode. My 82 year old mother feels like wearing a paper bag on her head whenever she ventures out of the house! =8-0 I hope you feel better about all this soon. Paige

Thanks so much! I really wanted to help my uncle( my Mother's twin) know a little about his Dad, to bring him some happiness in his last few years of his life. But what I did was the opposite. I think that is what I feel bad about. Thanks so much for caring!!! Carolyn ----- Original Message ----- From: "Paige Dulli" <pdulli@optonline.net> To: <KILGORE-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Saturday, December 29, 2001 7:56 PM Subject: Re: [KILGORE] This is not what I expected > Try not to take it too much to heart. It is history. Every family has some > black sheep. Your uncle may have already heard family rumors, etc, you never > know. You just have to decide how much information to share with him. > One of my favorite geneaology signature lines goes "If you have skeletons in > your closet, you might as well make 'em dance!" Sorry I can't remember whose > line it is. > At least it's in the past; a member of my family has this past year > committed acts so atrocious as to be worthy of a Jerry Springer episode. My > 82 year old mother feels like wearing a paper bag on her head whenever she > ventures out of the house! =8-0 > I hope you feel better about all this soon. > Paige > > > > ==== KILGORE Mailing List ==== > PLEASE NOTE: Addressing your mail to the list AND > to a current subscriber results in that person receiving > 2 copies of your message. > >