Oh Cara, are you so right! I read your JOYS OF BEING LIST ADMINISTRATOR today. We lose so many opportunities to find out about our relatives, not just the genealogical statistics but also the stories of their growing up together, their memories of parents, uncles, cousins that can give us a fuller picture of our past. I lost my father Wednesday night. John O'Toole, 64, was the youngest child of Francis and Margaret (Collins) O'Toole of New Rochelle, NY. Francis was a son of Patrick O'Toole and Winifred McDonald who came from Wicklow to New Rochelle in the late 1890's. It was you who helped me find Patrick's father, LUKE TOOLE of Aughrim whose wife was Brigid Bolger. More chances to ask him his memories of growing up gone forever. If I had never gotten into researching the family tree, I would have missed out on many stories that my father did tell me in the past couple years since I was bitten by the genealogy bug. I will cherish them, record them to pass down to my children and will continue to reach back and complete that tree as best I can in his memory. Stacy Kilts