Males married in the parish of their bride, and went to live in their own parish, so therefore it would be an fairly average bet that sometimes a child from the marriage belonging to the bride ( now a married woman) would have been baptised in her home parish, if she was of some importance, I find it not so in the farming community, or perhaps the labourer, he appears to have met and married his wife and carried her off to his parish and all children were baptised in that parish. And in the era you are researching, You need to transport yourself to that time frame yourself ( we all wish we could) but the woman did as she was told, she never had the right to vote, or disagree or in fact say no to very much at all, so therefore no the woman did not say where the child would be baptised, but as I have said depends upon perhaps the social standing of the bride as to whether she had children baptised in her home parish. In fact if it was a mixed marriage you can bet the Clergy were having a say in where or what church the children would be baptised in. It may well set you in good stead to look at some of the current laws of the time also PJ, there was so much going on and the church always seemed to be there in amongst the goings on of the time. It would appear that you are placing in your well balanced research the word 'assuming' never assume with the Irish for once you assume something the whole playing field tilts and you are tipped off the field of play, always do as you have been doing, follow all leads and you will get there. I have been looking at your names and following your research, finding it most interesting to see someone delving so deeply for information. Yours truly, cara