Dear Candi, Thank you for your reply. I am waiting for my husband to retire next year. I am very aware how precious and sometimes very short life can be. I am a breast cancer survivor who is still surviving after six years. Unfortunately, I am not free of it as it metastaized to my neck. I have wonderful doctors who have kept it from spreading any further. But every month I go in for tests. I am an optomist and I believe I can keep on surviving. but I must admit to a slight feeling urgency.. Why couldn't my O'Driscoll family have kept in touch!!! I have written to a priest at St. Patrick's in Dunmanway and I am hoping for a reply. Edwina