Dear List, I, too, received the Silent Treatment or the "I do not know/remember" treatment. And yet from other comments, I know that they knew. Then the fact that my father left home at age 16 makes one think he did not remember. But he wrote to his brother in Ireland. In some of the letters that he saved from his brother, they show that he knew things or he could have asked his brother. One or two letters from his brother show that the brother now deceased tried to help me. My father did not think it was important to tell me. I know that he had a resentment towards his mother -- did she or he was the reason he left home? I know that there were other children who needed to eat. His two oldest sisters and the two brothers about his age all left for the states. The youngest never met them and was resentful toward the states because they took his siblings. With my mother there were things that I could never feel right about asking more questions. She would make a comment and leave it alone. I did not want to ask for more. After she was gone, I found that some of her siblings knew things about her and the family and talked among themselves and not to me. Now they are dead, too. Yes, it hurts that I was not trusted not to blame or criticize or think differently of the family with the information. But they are all gone now. Alanna