I even have more.  A nasty aunt said that whatever I did not know would not hurt me.   She is the one who wrote to her sister and whose letter was shown to my mother.  This sister really liked my mother.  She wrote that my name was "rather heathensh."  My mother was born in Missouri and came from highly educated and highly intelligent people.  This creep said my mother was Hawaiian meaning she was trash and black.   >From what I understand, she thought she had some kind of claim on my father, as he Should have made sure she came to the States.  My father had no money!!!!   My own father would not talk about his family except to his brother as per reply letters from his brother he did not destroy.  He would not keep family papers or letters.   All so very sad!!!!!!  Yes, these are sad things to say about one's own family, but they are the ones who caused it.  My father sent them moeny that should have been used by his legal family.  My mother who was Always cold sent her good heavy coat to them.  She sent them other things.  So, I guess we were resented for doing so.  The nice sister told my mother and wrote in a letter I still have not to send them anything as they have more than we do.  More sadness.   Alanna --- On Mon, 8/1/11, Jackie Hoare <[email protected]> wrote:   I have an equally sad story on family photos.... When my mum was young she remembered seeing photos of who would have been my great great grandmother hanging on a wall at a great aunt's.  When this aunt died the photos were sent up to another Great Aunt in Cairns.  My mum was talking to her aunt and mentioned these photos she remembered and asked if she knew what happened to them.  Mum's aunt told her that she had no interest in the photos and didn't think anyone else would so she dug a big hole on her cane farm and buried them!  ARGH!