In a message dated 3/12/2005 11:13:38 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, [email protected] writes: Check with the cemetery. Not sure how you can prove you are the rightful heir, though. Do you really want to pay the perpetual care bill? If the graves are full, what's the point? If they are not, would you use the graves? What got me started in this was I found some old paperwork stating that my g-grandfather was buried in Calvary. We were all surprised because we've always been told he was buried in Potters Field. My grandmother used to tell us this--so it seems my grandfather and my g-uncle gave him a proper burial in Calvary. He was left in Bellevue hospital for 10 days before my grandfather claimed him. I don't think my grandmother even knew they did this. There was something going on between my grandmother and her husbands father, I think she blamed him for the death of her youngest child who died from encephalitis supposedly from a mosquito bite. He used to bring him down to the horses in NYC because he was a great horse lover. So I found paperwork that said my g-uncle bought those plots right after my g-grandfather died. 3 months later he died, then a month later his wife died. They were all buried in there also. They also had an 8 year old child nobody knows what happened to. I don't know if he is buried there or not. Maybe I'm really looking for answers to questions about my family. My grandparents never talked about their families. But about the graves---I don't want anything from them, we don't want to use them for anyone in the family. If a family was given the plots by the cemetery that's okay--I'm glad they were of use to someone. We didn't even know it existed until a few years ago. And why did he buy 20 plots? I guess I'll never have the answers. Thanks to everyone who read and answered this. Donna Tackney "...... there are no random acts.....we are all connected. .............. you cannot more separate one life from another than you can separate a breeze from the wind." Mitch Alborn The Five People You Meet in Heaven