Thank you for your consideration but FYI she lied. She just flat-out lied. ----- Original Message ----- From: <Diane14Sim@aol.com> To: <ILKNOX-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Wednesday, February 28, 2001 3:22 PM Subject: Re: [ILKNOX-L] Ferdinand Has Been Found > Hi, I wanted to defend your gggrandmother a little. My grandmother was > divorced in a small Iowa town in 1934. As you said, extremely scandalous > behavior at the time. Until she remarried, she always referred to herself as > a "grass widow" rather than a divorcee and I'm sure there were many times > that the "grass" part just slipped her mind. LOL People were extremely > narrow-minded in those days and assumed that if a woman was divorced she must > be either a woman "of easy virtue" or a bad wife incapable of keeping her > husband happy. In my grandmother's case, her husband was a college graduate > and felt that just because the nation was in a deep depression, that was no > reason he should have to do any manual labor but it didn't seem to bother him > that his wife was trying to raise 3 kids and work 12 hours a day cooking in > the local cafe. She finally got fed up and decided to divorce him and I > figure if she wanted to refer to herself as a widow instead of a divorcee, > she earned that right. I just didn't want you to think your gggrandmother > had intentionally lied to people, it might just be a case of semantics. > Diane S. >