Hi: I appreciated your feelings in your letter below. I know you were kind enough to thank them for their assistance to many on the list, and I appreciate that, too. I got the same type of disgusting response when I asked to have a note added to a marriage record of MY Grandparents, using the correct surname for her. Some records can be as wrong as the people writing them are only human too. That, Keith told me twicee was wrong to do, "Because no Genealogist would do that!" Made me feel like I was the smallest dot at the bottom of the list, after 12 years of research, and I certainly was disappointed with my treatment. I guess we are to continue to use false information, even though we know the correct information, and would like to share it corrected with anyone else in the same lines. An Iowa Descendant, Bj. -----Original Message----- From: PAPARG@aol.com <PAPARG@aol.com> To: IALOUISA-L@rootsweb.com <IALOUISA-L@rootsweb.com> Date: Tuesday, March 14, 2000 3:29 PM Subject: Re: Shellabarger In a message dated 3/14/00 8:17:17 AM Pacific Standard Time, ckcasey@netins.net writes: << IALOUISA-L@rootsweb.com >> Dear Connie Street: EXCUUUUUSE ME !!! Just who appointed you "Etiquette Monitor" for the Louisa Co list. Normally, I would only send this letter to Connie Street but I thought it important to let all the other list members know that the Etiquette Monitor is standing over us all waiting to pounce if your posting wasn't up to her standards. First of all, let's get the facts straight. 1. The e-mail to which you are referring was not even addressed to YOU. I fail to see why you think it is your concern to correct this (in your mind) oversight. If it is such a problem, I would hope that George or Verna would bring this to my attention. I could then have explained to them and I think it would have been perfectly clear why I responded to George instesd of Verna. But no, Connie Street, "Miss Etiguette Monitor for the list" had to butt in and not only embarrass me and probably George and Verna May by broadcasting her letter to the entire list and thereby making it necessary for me to respond back to her and the list, but has shown the entire list that she did not have the facts straight before she made the assumption that I had made an "LIST ETIQUETTE ERROR". My My My, shame on Miss Etiquette. 2. I did actually read the entire e-mail including the signing of the letter and I then compared it to the FROM address and I saw the difference. That FROM address had the name George May at the end in parenthesis. Since the name Verna never appeared anywhere in the letter, I concluded that It would be propper to use the name George in the greating as the return address indicated. This whole mess could have been avoided had you (Connie) had reacted more appropriately. You could have just minded your own business or, If this was such a concern to you (Connie), you could have emailed me directly and not involved the entire list. An appropriate email to me on the subject would have resulted in the simple explanation I stated above and the matter would have been resolved and none of us would have suffered this embarrassment. I do realize that Connie and Keith are icons to this list and I do respect that. They do a lot of very helpful work for a lot of people including me. I do want that to continue. The email Connie Street sent to me and the list was totally inappropriate and I felt required an answer both to the list and to Connie. The wording of the email sent by Connie to me was inappropriate and the email subject was inappropriate to be sent to the list. In conclusion, I sincerely hope that George and Verna May will accept my apology for getting them mixed up in this situation and will respond to the email that I sent to them. I would also like to apologize to the list for my part in this embarrassing moment. I hope that this matter is now resolved and that both Connie and I can continue as responsible members of the Louisa Co. Iowa list Ron Garmoe ==== IALOUISA Mailing List ==== Don't forget to check out the web sites for southeastern Iowa families. http://www.rootsweb.com/~ialouisa http://www.rootsweb.com/~ialcgs http://www.rootsweb.com/~iahenry http://homepages.rootsweb.com/~jennings