I want to state my appreciation for each of you who replied with helpful information on the question of the Bethany & Mary of the Angels Homes. It's particularly good to receive local perspectives on these homes. Thank you Kathie, Nancy and Jim! Now I need some advice. These twins were a mystery to our family members, and we only knew that Bertha had multiple birth children, without knowing if they were twins, triplets or more than one set. It must have been an emotionally painful part of her life, not to have shared more specific information than that which was passed down. I knew her myself. She was apparently married twice, and we didn't even know that, so we had no idea what surname her children would have been born with, if they themselves even knew it. For all the family knew, they were either taken by their father, who abandoned Bertha, or she had to give them up for adoption. I would love to get the facts. So, you see why I want to approach contacting the surviving twin with caution. Not knowing her background or circumstance, I wish to handle it as appropriately as possible. I wonder if phoning or writing to Bethany first would be better than addressing a letter directly to Elaine would be more prudent. According to her twin's obit, they had been in Mary of the Angels at about age 41 in 1965. I don't have a clue why. Could be a world of reasons. She'd be almost 79 now, and I wouldn't want to shock her with a letter of introduction or write something that wouldn't be understood. I sure would like to at least send her a birthday card. Your opinions, especially if anyone has experienced something similar, are gratefully received. Thank you, Kin <kindet-NoSpam-@yahoo.com> sans "-NoSpam-" -- In a message dated 02/9/5 8:01:18 PM, IADUBUQU-D-request@rootsweb.com writes: << IADUBUQU-D Digest Volume 02 : Issue 58 Today's Topics: #1 [Dub'que] MARRA & SHINOE, Bethany [KinDetective@aol.com] #2 Re: [Dub'que] MARRA & SHINOE, Beth [THEKATTT@aol.com] #3 Re: [Dub'que] MARRA & SHINOE, Beth ["Nancy L. Jansen Stensland" <uffda] #4 Re: [Dub'que] MARRA & SHINOE, Beth ["Jim Neiers" <neiersj@hiwaay.net>] >>

I would write to the Bethany home. Also, many single women found it convenient to stay at Mary of the Angels in the 60s. I had cousin who worked in Dubuque and kept a room there. On weekends, she would often stay with her mother in Cascade. jiminal ----- Original Message ----- From: <KinDetective@aol.com> To: <IADUBUQU-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Friday, September 06, 2002 7:33 PM Subject: [Dub'que] Bethany & Mary of the Angels Homes - Thanks & Advice Request > I want to state my appreciation for each of you who replied with helpful > information on the question of the Bethany & Mary of the Angels Homes. It's > particularly good to receive local perspectives on these homes. > Thank you Kathie, Nancy and Jim! > > Now I need some advice. > These twins were a mystery to our family members, and we only knew that > Bertha had multiple birth children, without knowing if they were twins, > triplets or more than one set. It must have been an emotionally painful part > of her life, not to have shared more specific information than that which was > passed down. I knew her myself. > She was apparently married twice, and we didn't even know that, so we had no > idea what surname her children would have been born with, if they themselves > even knew it. For all the family knew, they were either taken by their > father, who abandoned Bertha, or she had to give them up for adoption. I > would love to get the facts. > > So, you see why I want to approach contacting the surviving twin with > caution. Not knowing her background or circumstance, I wish to handle it as > appropriately as possible. I wonder if phoning or writing to Bethany first > would be better than addressing a letter directly to Elaine would be more > prudent. According to her twin's obit, they had been in Mary of the Angels > at about age 41 in 1965. I don't have a clue why. Could be a world of > reasons. She'd be almost 79 now, and I wouldn't want to shock her with a > letter of introduction or write something that wouldn't be understood. I > sure would like to at least send her a birthday card. > > Your opinions, especially if anyone has experienced something similar, are > gratefully received. > Thank you, > Kin <kindet-NoSpam-@yahoo.com> sans "-NoSpam-" > > > > > -- > In a message dated 02/9/5 8:01:18 PM, IADUBUQU-D-request@rootsweb.com writes: > << IADUBUQU-D Digest Volume 02 : Issue 58 > > Today's Topics: > #1 [Dub'que] MARRA & SHINOE, Bethany [KinDetective@aol.com] > #2 Re: [Dub'que] MARRA & SHINOE, Beth [THEKATTT@aol.com] > #3 Re: [Dub'que] MARRA & SHINOE, Beth ["Nancy L. Jansen Stensland" <uffda] > #4 Re: [Dub'que] MARRA & SHINOE, Beth ["Jim Neiers" <neiersj@hiwaay.net>] > >> > > > ==== IADUBUQU Mailing List ==== > Have you visited the *NEW* RootsWeb/Ancestry Message Boards yet? Take a > tour soon & learn how time-saving those "Gateway" messages are compared > to trying to find the *new* ones on your own. > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 >