Susi, I agree with you. We had a surname that matched some one else name and the surname that my family has known all of their lives for generations.. it was my mother's maiden name. For several hundred years they had this name. From the 1700's forward it is proven. The man in charge of the DNA roots web DNA group has been so rude to me and told me to get more DNA or not to post. I didn't say anything that would have bothered anyone except to say get re tested if you didn't think it was correct that labs makes mistakes. He send's me personal e-mails and is just awful. I am really upset about the findings and more upset about the man being rude to me. I wanted him to post what he is saying to me in the group and allow everyone to see how mean he is. He said my mother being a 101 had nothing to do with this being right or wrong. Well, the person I talked to at FTDNA told me this happened about 100 yrs ago. So, I know that wasn't right and has been proved by DNA. My mother is 101 and I wouldn't ever tell her. She wouldn't believe it and I don't either. A thing like this hurts and to have people heading up the DNA groups that are mean as the devil doesn't help. I ask him to not address me or send any more e-mails to me that I have a mind of my own and he will not control what I have to say. In other words, I am not allowed to discuss this painful thing. I am doing two more people in the family. We are an exact match to a brother of my gr.gr. grandfather. The man who heads up that group sent me and e-mail and said it won't do any good they are in the same family. He doesn't know that because I didn't tell him but did tell someone I was getting one rechecked and doing another family member. In all of this. we have to have a heart for that person even when they say it doesn't bother them.. I believe it does. Frances In a message dated 12/18/2008 2:25:23 P.M. Pacific Standard Time, SusiCP@aol.com writes: First you have them check to make sure not mixed up with someone elses tests. Then if you do not match I would think one would keep thy mouth shut if the people are alive. Only if there is a serious medical situation would I reveal something as greivous as this to any envovled. If the person did this test and learned not of whom they thought it would be up to that person to make decision to relate it or to just say I do not match the lineage I was expecting too. It may not have been parents it could have been grandparents ie ggrandparents??? I guess that is why I am happy with using Mtdna for some of my research backup. Blessings and Seasons Best Wishes. Susi ************** One site keeps you connected to all your email: AOL Mail, Gmail, and Yahoo Mail. Try it now. (http://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp&icid=aolcom40vanity&ncid=emlcntaolco m00000025) ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to GERMANNA_COLONIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message **************One site keeps you connected to all your email: AOL Mail, Gmail, and Yahoo Mail. Try it now. (http://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp&icid=aolcom40vanity&ncid=emlcntaolcom00000025)