I think in some situations that we don't need to tell our family all we find when it may be something that is too much for them. After all, there was a time when there were no surnames. Why make a big deal out of our finds because we don't know if they are absolutely true until we do them in another lab. Machines are off many times and some people just mark what they want to mark regarding the test. I do genealogy for myself and I don't want to share with any of my relatives anything that would hurt them. In a message dated 12/18/2008 10:06:11 A.M. Pacific Standard Time, carrol@allthroughtheages.com writes: Well I just watched something on tv about the dna of a mother not matching her children. She was their biological mother but the tests kept coming up that they were not her children. There is a term for it but I cannot think of it right now. Her children were taken away from her until it could be proven that they were her children. Sometimes this could happen. Also when my relatives learned from me that their father and grandfather was adopted I received about half good responses and half horrible responses. to this day I have half of my cousins saying that I am wrong and won't believe that my grandfather on my father's side was adopted. They would not speak to me for years. I have the original adoption papers that not even the court has, I have proven it, but they still say no. I have met the grandchildren of my grandfather's sister and there are similarities and such. One must take it one second and step at a time. Some will be completely upset and others accepting. I grew up in a variety of households never really knowing who my real family was, but my real family are all of those blood related and not and those that raised me and those that never knew me. My older half brother absolutely is in denial about his birth father after 40 years of searching because he doesn't want to believe. He is mad at me for finding this out and won't speak to me about it. I figure the man that he wants to be his biological father that was never around is not his father and the father that is biological that was never around is not his father but my father who raised him was his father. And all of the relatives that want to get to know him are his relatives and those that don't want to be bothered are not family. but he doesn't see it that way. that is all I have to offer I hope it helps. Carrol Mick On Thu, Dec 18, 2008 at 9:13 AM, Suzanne Matson < holtzclaw.research@yahoo.com> wrote: > How have various family groups dealt with the following scenario which > happened in my husband's family? > > Y-DNA studies were done to see if various lines were related. One came > back as completely unrelated. The parents of the person tested are living. > He had grown up in his family thinking of course that he was a biological > child of both parents. Needless to say, this person is devastated and the > family is in real turmoil. > > I am not saying don't do DNA studies but I am asking how you would deal > with this. > > As we work on our various Germanna lines, we may encounter the above > situation at some point. > > Suzanne Collins Matson > > > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > GERMANNA_COLONIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the quotes in the subject and the body of the message > -- Carrol Mick Mick Worms, LLC www.mickworms.com ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to GERMANNA_COLONIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message **************One site keeps you connected to all your email: AOL Mail, Gmail, and Yahoo Mail. Try it now. (http://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp&icid=aolcom40vanity&ncid=emlcntaolcom00000025)

I have been following the talk about DNA and have a comment to add. I am always happen to research for friends at no cost to them except for any cost I might have. Recently I re-united with a friend that lived near me as a child. I knew she had a step-mother and that was all. Almost immediately I found her paternal grandfather to be Negro. He died before her birth and no one ever told her. I think she had an idea and that is why she asked me to trace her family. I told her by saying it was confidential information and I certainly would not share it with anyone, She was not upset with the information and I assured her although it was rather startling it surely made no difference to me either. Barbara Rector Hill ----- Original Message ----- From: <KiwisKeeper@aol.com> To: <germanna_colonies@rootsweb.com> Sent: Thursday, December 18, 2008 12:25 PM Subject: Re: [GERMANNA] DNA study question >I think in some situations that we don't need to tell our family all we >find > when it may be something that is too much for them. After all, there was a > time when there were no surnames. Why make a big deal out of our finds > because > we don't know if they are absolutely true until we do them in another lab. > Machines are off many times and some people just mark what they want to > mark > regarding the test. > I do genealogy for myself and I don't want to share with any of my > relatives > anything that would hurt them. > > > In a message dated 12/18/2008 10:06:11 A.M. Pacific Standard Time, > carrol@allthroughtheages.com writes: > > Well I just watched something on tv about the dna of a mother not > matching > her children. She was their biological mother but the tests kept coming > up > that they were not her children. There is a term for it but I cannot > think > of it right now. Her children were taken away from her until it could be > proven that they were her children. Sometimes this could happen. > Also when my relatives learned from me that their father and grandfather > was > adopted I received about half good responses and half horrible responses. > to this day I have half of my cousins saying that I am wrong and won't > believe that my grandfather on my father's side was adopted. They would > not > speak to me for years. I have the original adoption papers that not even > the court has, I have proven it, but they still say no. I have met the > grandchildren of my grandfather's sister and there are similarities and > such. One must take it one second and step at a time. Some will be > completely upset and others accepting. I grew up in a variety of > households > never really knowing who my real family was, but my real family are all > of > those blood related and not and those that raised me and those that never > knew me. > My older half brother absolutely is in denial about his birth father > after > 40 years of searching because he doesn't want to believe. He is mad at > me > for finding this out and won't speak to me about it. I figure the man > that > he wants to be his biological father that was never around is not his > father > and the father that is biological that was never around is not his father > but my father who raised him was his father. And all of the relatives > that > want to get to know him are his relatives and those that don't want to be > bothered are not family. but he doesn't see it that way. > that is all I have to offer I hope it helps. > > Carrol Mick > > > On Thu, Dec 18, 2008 at 9:13 AM, Suzanne Matson < > holtzclaw.research@yahoo.com> wrote: > >> How have various family groups dealt with the following scenario which >> happened in my husband's family? >> >> Y-DNA studies were done to see if various lines were related. One came >> back as completely unrelated. The parents of the person tested are >> living. >> He had grown up in his family thinking of course that he was a >> biological >> child of both parents. Needless to say, this person is devastated and >> the >> family is in real turmoil. >> >> I am not saying don't do DNA studies but I am asking how you would deal >> with this. >> >> As we work on our various Germanna lines, we may encounter the above >> situation at some point. >> >> Suzanne Collins Matson >> >> >> >> >> ------------------------------- >> To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to >> GERMANNA_COLONIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' >> without >> the quotes in the subject and the body of the message >> > > > > -- > Carrol Mick > Mick Worms, LLC > www.mickworms.com > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > GERMANNA_COLONIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the quotes in the > subject and the body of the message > > > **************One site keeps you connected to all your email: AOL Mail, > Gmail, and Yahoo Mail. Try it now. > (http://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp&icid=aolcom40vanity&ncid=emlcntaolcom00000025) > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > GERMANNA_COLONIES-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without > the quotes in the subject and the body of the message > >

Folks, it's time to stop all this "off topic" posting! No more comparing DNA science with religion! No more posting personal DNA stories/anecdotes! If it doesn't relate DIRECTLY to Germanna genealogical research, don't post it! This is not a "general-public bulletin board". It is a Mailing List for discussion of our Germanna ancestors. If your post doesn't relate directly to "Germanna" don't post it. 'Nuff Said, Sarge List Admin