In reply to the question of how to handle a divorce. I would think that it would be offensive to leave out either family. Just because they divorced, they are no less family. The children of the first family are step siblings of the second family....again, family. Unless there was something really bad or horrible about the first divorce, or if for some reason the second family is not aware of the first family, a family page done with " just the facts" is nothing less than tasteful. You do not need to go into details of the divorce, just stating the fact that it occured should be enough. I have run into this problem in my own research, one gentleman was married once before, but there were no children. When he later married again, it really had no bearing on his current family and consequently this was never mentioned in front of the current children. When I becan my research, I talked to all members of the family. No less than two people told me about "the other woman" and all the messy details of how "unfemenine" she was! Heavens to Betsy, she rode a Harley! This was way back when! So to this day,I am told that they know nothing of her. I would not mention this in my history, because it really has no bearing , so listing it would not help anyone . In this type of case, I would leave it out. I hope this helps you to decide. Sincerely, Diane Eaton Hacker famlygeni@aol.com

Hi i have run into the problem of divorces in the family - one cousin wanted to know what her divorce had to do with our family tree, so as there were no children in theat marriage i said i would leave the 1st marriage out . Another cousin whose son & also a niece of his had been divorced , (again , no children in either marriage) wanted to know why i hadn't put all of these divorces on the tree. I am divorced as is one of my uncles , but we both have children to those marriages , so i made the decision that any marriage that ended in divorce & no kids , i would leave out , but those that had kids , the ist marriages would be included. But as well as that , i will do another copy that has all the marriages in it , & anyone of the family that wants to see that will be shown that copy Sheila ----- Original Message ----- From: <FAMLYGENI@aol.com> To: <GenTips-L@rootsweb.com> Sent: Sunday, March 10, 2002 8:35 AM Subject: [GEN~TIPS] Re: GenTips-D Digest V02 #8 > In reply to the question of how to handle a divorce. > > I would think that it would be offensive to leave out either family. Just > because they divorced, they are no less family. The children of the first > family are step siblings of the second family....again, family. Unless there > was something really bad or horrible about the first divorce, or if for some > reason the second family is not aware of the first family, a family page done > with " just the facts" is nothing less than tasteful. You do not need to go > into details of the divorce, just stating the fact that it occured should be > enough. > > I have run into this problem in my own research, one gentleman was married > once before, but there were no children. When he later married again, it > really had no bearing on his current family and consequently this was never > mentioned in front of the current children. When I becan my research, I > talked to all members of the family. No less than two people told me about > "the other woman" and all the messy details of how "unfemenine" she was! > Heavens to Betsy, she rode a Harley! This was way back when! So to this day,I > am told that they know nothing of her. I would not mention this in my > history, because it really has no bearing , so listing it would not help > anyone . In this type of case, I would leave it out. > > I hope this helps you to decide. > Sincerely, > Diane Eaton Hacker > famlygeni@aol.com > > > ==== GenTips Mailing List ==== > If you would like to be removed from this part of the list, send a message to the following address: > GENTIPS-L-request@rootsweb.com > Put the word "unsubscribe" (without the quotation marks) in the subject line of the message; > ABSOLUTELY NO OTHER TEXT IS TO BE INCLUDED ANYWHERE IN YOUR MESSAGE. > If you don't follow these instructions, you will never be removed from this list. > > ============================== > To join Ancestry.com and access our 1.2 billion online genealogy records, go to: > http://www.ancestry.com/rd/redir.asp?targetid=571&sourceid=1237 >