Dear CindyKay (and list) Since it appears you know a fair amount about your "half-aunt" already (assuming you are a child of one of the brothers), I believe you should leave her without contact. Especially considering you have no desire to "lie" about your connection. Sometimes a white lie is better than bald-faced truth. Allow the woman her own perception of her family, but be ready to share if ever _she_ contacts _you_, exhibiting some real interest in her ancestry and extended family. Accept the fact that not everyone has interest in their genealogy. And realize that your grandfather probably had his own reasons for maintaining the perceptions of his second wife. (This second marriage could have great implications in some religious families, especially in Roman Catholics, who would believe that a second marriage is illicit and any children from the marriage are illegitimate while the first, divorced spouse remains alive.) You suspected as much in your closing sentence: "I do not think I should." Thomas Kohn Tgkohn@aol.com