Dear List, Thank You All! I have received alot of Very Good advice both For & Against Contacting = My Aunt. I want to assure Everyone that I am not entering into this lightly, this has been on My Mind for a Very Long time. I have a Cousin who spoke to My Grandfather Years Ago & at that time He was trying to Reach Out to His Sons, Unfortunately they decided Not to Reunite with their Father. Ironically My Father had 8 Children Himself & did not raise any of them, He too Vanished from Our Lives. Just as My Grandfather had. My Mother passed away 4 years ago So about 1 year later I started My Family Research. I found My Father about 2 weeks into it. Unfortunately My Grandmother had already passed on & I was unable to Ever meet Her & My Uncle passed away 2 weeks after I found My Father. I have always been a Very Curious Individual, Always asking Why & How & When & Where, this use to make My Mother Crazy. Then I discover that My Grandfather was a Private Investigator. I am learning about My Grandmother through Her Children & Her Second Husband. I have photos of Her Now & My Oldest Sister Looks Very Much like Her. I also discovered My Brothers Middle Name (Adair) is handed down in My Fathers Family. I believe You learn about Who You are through Family & Frankly My Aunt is the Only Person alive today that can tell Me Anything at All about My Grandfather. She grew up with Him & He had removed Himself from His Family so much that I was the one to Inform His Family of His Death. No One notified them & His Brother had been trying to contact Him. I also want to assure Everyone that I Never had any intention of telling My Aunt that She was Adopted, I believe I do not have the Right to tell Her. I have Decided to contact Her in a letter, I am going to tell Her that I am Researching the Family Name & Send Her a Family Sheet to fill out. I do not have to tell Her exactly Who I am the First Time. Maybe She will respond & Hopefully list 2 Sons. Thanks Again For Your Time & Advice "CindyKay" <paulmac5@bellsouth.net>