> My Grandfather had 2 Sons, He & My Grandmother Divorced, there was > little contact with His Sons after the Divorce, As Young Men He > actually asked that they stop contacting Him. He had Remarried & > Moved away, Him & His new Wife adopted a little girl. > > My Grandfather never told His adopted Daughter that She was adopted > & that He was previously Married or had 2 Sons. Now both Him & His > Wife have passed away (about 1 year ago) & their Daughter is an > Adult Woman & Married. > > The Obituary I found on My Grandfather just about confirms that She > has no knowledge about Her Brothers but I am still unsure as to Her > being told about the Adoption. If I were to Contact Her I would > never Lie about My connection (She is My Aunt) But I do not want to > be the one to Upset Her. > > I would Love to contact Her except I do not think I should. > > "CindyKay" <paulmac5@bellsouth.net> It depends very much on the individuals and their interaction But facts is facts and IMHO finding out those facts from someone who is attempting to be sympathetic to your situation is better than from a stranger or just uncovering it some time in the future. My Daughter age 14 Just met her 2 half brothers in the UK, only one of whom talks to me and it seems to have been a very positive experience for the three of them. I'm hoping her full brother will visit there later this year or next and also meet them. Just an opinion which if nothing else is more than likely to prompt other reactions in this group. -- Mick Gurling CT USA "Mick Gurling" <No.Spam.mickg@toto.com>