Hi Cindy, I'd lean toward treading lightly in the beginning. Write her a letter rather than calling. She'll have some time to compose herself after reading it, instead of being forced to respond immediately on the phone. I wouldn't mention any adoption right away. (Nor would I assume from an obituary that she didn't know about her brothers, but I digress.) Tell her you were searching for an obituary for your grandfather and found her name. Share the FACTS, no emotion, about when and where his sons were born etc. Let her know you are interested in learning more about this man, keeping in mind her relationship may have been more positive than that of his sons. Let her have the option of responding or not. She may be thrilled to have siblings, or she may resent the contact. Either way it's her call. The information concerning her adoption can come up in it's own time. We'll keep our collective fingers crossed for you - good luck! Just another limb, Laura search for fallen leaves at http://home.attbi.com/~branchingout "Branching Out" <BranchingOut@attbi.com>