> > Then there are family historians - good-hearted people who > > sometimes (sometimes is a key word here) waive commonly accepted > > rules of genealogy to please family and friends. This includes the > > righteous among us who properly insist on bloodlines but who will be > > in for a few disappointments when DNA testing is universal. > > > > J. Hugh Sullivan > > Mr. Sullivan: > > Your above comment (extracted from the full post), made me laugh out > loud as I recalled my kin folks' reaction to the discovery I had > made that proved the maternal GrGrandfather was illegitimate. While > the kin folks knew this to be true, they did not want such records > available for public use (the record was found at NARA) and they > certainly did not want "the kid" knowing of and discussing this part > of the family history. Many offers were made to me---payments if > you will----to withhold that information. > > Your lines above gave me a good walk down memory lane. > > Fred Frederick <[email protected]> your post brings up a good point. as i work very diligently trying to research my family history while I still have my mother and my grandmother to use as sources i come across a situation where my mother and an aunt had been married for a short period of time to different men. neither of them wants to share any of their history during those times. I know of these marriages because they were in my lifetime so I have written them in my notes for use at a later date but how does a person make others in the family understand that this is a family history to share with our descendants so they can know where they came from and who we are, They enjoy researching with me and love to find new stories about our ancestors but still are adamant about not sharing a small piece of their past. How can we make people understand so they will share? Robin Percy <[email protected]>