Orin, I suspect we're all equally frustrated by our inability to enter into communication with a known "DNA cousin." But I've found that if I work hard enough, anyone (well, except those who are no longer with us) can be found (not that it's always worth it) ... and almost inevitably, their earlier lack of response stemmed from not knowing they were being sought. Out of the over 10,000 DNA cousins with whom I've actually been in touch (bilaterally), I can count on my fingers and toes the number who actually said "not interested" (although the %age who have reservations about copying their DNA to GEDmatch is of course much more substantive). That's why it seems to me genetic genealogy is (on several levels) a "game of numbers," which in turn is why it's worth (for any serious hobbyist) ensuring you fish in all five of the main pools (AncestryDNA, 23andMe, FTDNA, MyHeritage, GEDmatch). > -----Original Message----- > From: GENEALOGY-DNA [mailto:[email protected]] On > Behalf Of Orin Wells > Sent: September 1, 2017 01.44 > To: [email protected] > Subject: Re: [DNA] size matters > identifying "cousins" than Family Tree. And I have experienced exactly the > same general lack of interest in the two systems on the part of people who > have tested to replying to contacts from people who appear to match them. > To me that is probably the most frustrating part of the Family Finder and > AncestryDNA testing. You know there is a match if you could only get them to > open up and help figure out the how of it.