Dear Listers, I have been a mostly silent lurker for many months now, and have enjoyed reading the mysteries posted, and the successes achieved in researching those mysteries. I, too, have been intrigued by the Alice Martin mystery, and I was very surprised to read that first message posted by Susan Snyder/gss4224. In fact, it bothered me so much that today I decided to let her know how I felt about her poor manners. A copy of the message I sent her follows. Keep up the good work, fellow listers, and thanks for being such a great bunch of people!!!! Cheryl Dear Susan, I am a subscriber to the Unsolved Mysteries mailing list. I wanted to let you know that in order to unsubscribe from the list, you must do so at the following address (which is different from the address used to post messages to the list): GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L-request@rootsweb.com. You must write "unsubscribe" as your message, with no other words. I also wanted to let you know that I found your behavior, during your brief membership on the list, to be offensive. As a newcomer to any mailing list, it is your responsibility to decide whether or not the list serves your needs. This is best done by reading the messages posted to the list for a few days. It is not the responsibility of those already on the list to somehow intuitively know what your needs are (when we haven't even been told what information you are looking for) and then somehow fulfill those needs for you. It was inappropriate for you to so rudely criticize listers who were only using the list in the manner it was intended. You stated that "This sight was recommended to me for other purposes than what it is being used for now". Perhaps the person who recommended it to you was not familiar enough with the site to give you accurate information about how it is being used. While I can understand your frustration when the list did not turn out to be helpful to you, that is not the fault of any of the listers, and they should not be criticized just because the list failed to meet your expectations. You also said "I am just going to unsubscribe so that I will no longer receive unwanted and useless email". I do not understand why you felt it necessary to be so unpleasant. The list didn't meet your needs, therefore you simply unsubscribe. Again, it is not the fault of the listers, and there is not any reason to lash out at them. I am sure I speak for many of those on the list when I say that I am actually relieved that your negative attitude will not be present on the list any longer. I believe it is you who are missing out, however. In the few months that I have been a subscriber to the list, I have seen a lot of listers receive valuable advice and information after posting their mysteries. For the most part, the listers all seem to be kind and caring people, who do what they can to help others solve their genealogical mysteries. I wish you luck in your searching. Sincerely, Cheryl Pauling