Hi Laura, I think what people mean (and I don't believe they are being nasty as this is a great list), is that the idea of a list like this is for anyone to post their mystery story on the list. That way all members have an opportunity to help you if they can. If you request that people contact you personally, then it defeats the reason for the list. No one here is or ever has been judgemental, only friendly and helpful. I guess in my view if you don't want to post your story to the list, that is your perogative; however, you may eliminate help from some very knowledgeable persons who have no wish to respond one on one. Sharon laura wrote: > > Excuse me, but this is the first time that I have ever been on a list at > all. I don't know how these things run and I didn't want to post my complete > family history to the entire list. I have gotten a few responses back from > people who are willing to try and help me. I don't understand the negative > responses that I have gotten. My husband is on a mailing list and that whole > list posts things all the time asking questions and helping out where > needed. I really don't understand why you or anyone else would have such a > negative attitude towards my email as that won't help anyone in solving > their problems or situations. The negative attitudes that I received make it > hard to even talk to anyone about my problem or ask for help. This is the > first time I have tried to get help through a list or been on a list. I > wanted to know if anyone could help me and I am willing to give more > information to individuals who might be able to help, but I don't want to > post my whole family history on the internet. I am NOT looking for a new way > to get junk mail. > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "wilma windes" <wjcook@hotmail.com> > To: <GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L@rootsweb.com> > Sent: Tuesday, August 22, 2000 3:06 PM > Subject: Re: family mystery Please help > > > I AGREE!!! Sure sounds "funny" to me. I try to help when I can, but this > > sounds like a new way to get JUNK MAIL. No thanks, I already have enough. > > Now Laura YOU post the info and WE will decide if we can help. > > Wil > > > > > > ----Original Message Follows---- > > From: "Anne" <odyssey@heirmail.to> > > Reply-To: odyssey@heirmail.to > > To: GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L@rootsweb.com > > Subject: Re: family mystery Please help > > Date: Tue, 22 Aug 2000 08:39:00 -0700 > > MIME-Version: 1.0 > > Received: from [63.92.80.125] by hotmail.com (3.2) with ESMTP id > > MHotMailBB6C1129005BD820F3DB3F5C507D10180; Tue Aug 22 11:27:54 2000 > > Received: (from slist@localhost)by lists6.rootsweb.com (8.10.1/8.10.1) id > > e7MIRGo31317;Tue, 22 Aug 2000 11:27:16 -0700 > > From GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L-request@rootsweb.com Tue Aug 22 11:32:07 > 2000 > > Resent-Date: Tue, 22 Aug 2000 11:27:16 -0700 > > X-Original-Sender: odyssey@heirmail.to Tue Aug 22 11:27:15 2000 > > Old-To: GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L@rootsweb.com > > Message-ID: <39A23C24.8224.269301@localhost> > > Priority: normal > > In-reply-to: <002301c00bd8$45e8cca0$951c1e18@mw.mediaone.net> > > X-mailer: Pegasus Mail for Win32 (v3.12c) > > Resent-Message-ID: <QHtRcB.A.JpH.DYso5@lists6.rootsweb.com> > > Resent-From: GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L@rootsweb.com > > X-Mailing-List: <GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L@rootsweb.com> > archive/latest/2319 > > X-Loop: GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L@rootsweb.com > > Precedence: list > > Resent-Sender: GEN-UNSOLVED-MYSTERIES-L-request@rootsweb.com > > > > Anybody else but me think that we have been 'had'? Don't you guys > > think this is a very odd way to address a list? She can't be all that > > much of a newbie, either...not if she could find her way to this list > > and get herself subscribed! She certainly HAS to know how lists run, > > and it isn't by asking for personal responses to a mystery that isn't > > stated!!! :) > > > > I had a strange feeling about this one as soon as it was posted > > (daaaa! That didn't take a stroke of genius!:). Has anyone tried to > > contact her directly? > > > > Anne > > > > > > > > > Hello my name is Laura and I have a family mystery that is anything, > but > > run of the mill. I know everyone says the same thing, but this one is > > interesting and heartbreaking. It has tortured our family for over 30 > years. > > It is about my mother and we could sure use some help to solve this > > mystery. Please email me back and I will give you more information. 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