MARGARET SHEREMATA wrote: > > Hi Felix, > > I should have amswered your message right away - no I am afraid that I > have deleted it, and so am answering by memory > > You should be arriving back from Bonnie's this evening, according to what > I remember - > > We are getting another "snow dump" tonight/tomorrow, according to the > forecast, Ontario and Quebec. It is now minus 14 out there - and that > isn't Fahrenheit. > > Yes, I got your feedback and I will keep quiet on Bukovina-Gen. But it > is going to be hard. Every time I see Richard's signature I want to > blurt out and ask if he has ever seen a netiquette FAQ. Slovak-World is > sort of civilized these days, but stay with it for a while. They are > sure to have another brawl soon. Gen-Slavic is VERY civilized <G>. > > Tell me something Felix, if I were to tell you that my brother's wife and > her two adult children irritate me to no end, and always have, would you > think I was being petty? She has never done me any wrong at all except > to talk about my sisters as if they were not good daughters to my mother, > and my sisters are really terrific. She plays up to my mother and my mother > loves her very much, but I know Sanja is a phoney - so is that being petty? > Does it sound like old fashioned childish jealousy? She is not the least > bit sincere. My father saw through her and kept very quiet about it. > What bothers me most is that I let Sanja bother me so much. The only > other person I have ever discussed it with (besides Willow and Tamara) is > my sister Lynn - Lynn really had it one evening and we ended up > having a long talk - Lynn was so relieved that someone else in the > family besides her "didn't trust Sanja" - > > All I hear Sanja talk about is money and dreams of winning a big lottery. > She is extremely discontent. The latest that has gotten me going is just > a very simple little thing, my mother mentioned that Sanja has > to buy a new gown for Daniella's wedding in June, and that Daniella > brought her fiance to visit my mother and "they are just a lovely couple". > Daniella is Sanja's daughter, my brother's step-daughter. OK, now that > simple little statement from my mother should not upset me, except that > less than four years ago Daniella had her first big expensive wedding, I > spent a lot of time and money for her wedding gift, air fare to attend > the darned thing (maybe that's not fair, went to see my parents primarily) > and never received so much as even a verbal "thank you" for the gift - > - in fact, my mother was the only one who did get a "thank you" > My aunt told me that she did not hear from Daniella after that wedding. > Lynn was severely criticized by Sanja for sailing the Pacific coast with > her husband instead of attending the wedding, but Lynn did send - by > courier, some sterling silver to the wedding and did not get a thank you > card either. > > Maybe I will get more to the point, Sanja and Daniella are nice to my > mother only because they see dollar signs and we all know it and I really > hate myself for resenting them because they make my mother feel very good > when they visit her. Sanja is half Czech, a quarter Italian and a > quarter Croation, born in Croatia. She is also manipulative, insincere, > selfish, and tells lies. If my brother was happily married it would make > a big difference to me, but I think he has had a hard time keeping them > content. She would leave him in a minute if it weren't for certain > things. > > Now that I have gotten this far Felix, wondering if I should delete all > of this or not, but I think I won't because I really am disturbed by > those people, when I shouldn't be - after all I am three thousand miles > from them and don't have to see them very often, so it's better that I > spill it all out to Felix than to my mother, I think. I am also upset > with myself for not being able to get it off my mind. All it took was my > mother taking an interest in Daniella's plans for her second wedding to > set me off. (Daniella is not much older than Megan - she divorced her > husband less than a year ago for "mental cruelty" - I thought her > husband was quite a nice young man). > > This is one time I am leaning on you - <exploiting>. > > I am sure that you will be tired when you get back from Sebastian -I > hope you and Jean had a good visit with Bob and Bonnie - > the storm hasn't started here yet, but you picked a good time to be down > there. > > Take care Felix, if there was any wine here I would go and have a glass, > guess I will help myself to Megan's Coca Cola instead. > > Margaret Very interesting, but you really shouldn't post your private email to a genealogy group where it is read by tens of thousands of people all over the world