Might I suggest that your private conversations not be broadcast to the group. Regards, Jeanne Gold goldj@ix.netcom.com At 07:49 PM 3/9/97 +0000, you wrote: >Hi Felix, > >I should have amswered your message right away - no I am afraid that I >have deleted it, and so am answering by memory > >You should be arriving back from Bonnie's this evening, according to what >I remember - > >We are getting another "snow dump" tonight/tomorrow, according to the >forecast, Ontario and Quebec. It is now minus 14 out there - and that >isn't Fahrenheit. > >Yes, I got your feedback and I will keep quiet on Bukovina-Gen. But it >is going to be hard. Every time I see Richard's signature I want to >blurt out and ask if he has ever seen a netiquette FAQ. Slovak-World is >sort of civilized these days, but stay with it for a while. They are >sure to have another brawl soon. Gen-Slavic is VERY civilized <G>. > >Tell me something Felix, if I were to tell you that my brother's wife and >her two adult children irritate me to no end, and always have, would you >think I was being petty? She has never done me any wrong at all except >to talk about my sisters as if they were not good daughters to my mother, >and my sisters are really terrific. She plays up to my mother and my mother >loves her very much, but I know Sanja is a phoney - so is that being petty? >Does it sound like old fashioned childish jealousy? She is not the least >bit sincere. My father saw through her and kept very quiet about it. >What bothers me most is that I let Sanja bother me so much. The only >other person I have ever discussed it with (besides Willow and Tamara) is >my sister Lynn - Lynn really had it one evening and we ended up >having a long talk - Lynn was so relieved that someone else in the >family besides her "didn't trust Sanja" - > >All I hear Sanja talk about is money and dreams of winning a big lottery. >She is extremely discontent. The latest that has gotten me going is just >a very simple little thing, my mother mentioned that Sanja has >to buy a new gown for Daniella's wedding in June, and that Daniella >brought her fiance to visit my mother and "they are just a lovely couple". >Daniella is Sanja's daughter, my brother's step-daughter. OK, now that >simple little statement from my mother should not upset me, except that >less than four years ago Daniella had her first big expensive wedding, I >spent a lot of time and money for her wedding gift, air fare to attend >the darned thing (maybe that's not fair, went to see my parents primarily) >and never received so much as even a verbal "thank you" for the gift - > - in fact, my mother was the only one who did get a "thank you" >My aunt told me that she did not hear from Daniella after that wedding. >Lynn was severely criticized by Sanja for sailing the Pacific coast with >her husband instead of attending the wedding, but Lynn did send - by >courier, some sterling silver to the wedding and did not get a thank you >card either. > >Maybe I will get more to the point, Sanja and Daniella are nice to my >mother only because they see dollar signs and we all know it and I really >hate myself for resenting them because they make my mother feel very good >when they visit her. Sanja is half Czech, a quarter Italian and a >quarter Croation, born in Croatia. She is also manipulative, insincere, >selfish, and tells lies. If my brother was happily married it would make >a big difference to me, but I think he has had a hard time keeping them >content. She would leave him in a minute if it weren't for certain >things. > >Now that I have gotten this far Felix, wondering if I should delete all >of this or not, but I think I won't because I really am disturbed by >those people, when I shouldn't be - after all I am three thousand miles >from them and don't have to see them very often, so it's better that I >spill it all out to Felix than to my mother, I think. I am also upset >with myself for not being able to get it off my mind. All it took was my >mother taking an interest in Daniella's plans for her second wedding to >set me off. (Daniella is not much older than Megan - she divorced her >husband less than a year ago for "mental cruelty" - I thought her >husband was quite a nice young man). > >This is one time I am leaning on you - <exploiting>. > >I am sure that you will be tired when you get back from Sebastian -I >hope you and Jean had a good visit with Bob and Bonnie - >the storm hasn't started here yet, but you picked a good time to be down >there. > >Take care Felix, if there was any wine here I would go and have a glass, >guess I will help myself to Megan's Coca Cola instead. > >Margaret > > /''~``\ ( 0 0 ) +-------------------------.oooO--(@)--Oooo.------------------------+ | Jeanne Gold goldj@ix.netcom.com | | http://pw2.netcom.com/~goldj/resume.html | | http://www.familytreemaker.com/users/g/o/l/Jeanne--Gold/ | | .oooO | | ( ) Oooo. | +---------------------------\ (----( )---------------------------+ \_) ) / (_/