When I read the first part of your letter I knew some how it was you...I too have lived a very very similar life...my father and step father sexually molested me and physically too...so I KNOW the deep pain within that you feel...and I do agree whole heartedly that we should not judge others...I try very hard not to and accept people for who they are... I'm huring so much right now I just don't know what to do...my husband and I have decided that we are getting a divorce...and boy does it hurt...but we just can't live together any more...we do nothing but fight...we can be friends...but both of us are no long and haven't been in love with each other for a very long time...my heart aches to the very deepest part of my soul...but I know that this is probably the right thing to do... I'm sorry to see you go out of the group and deeply saddened that that one sister feels the way she does... I think you are a wonderful person...and I know that we could relate to each other very well...we know each others pain...I didn't live in the same conditions you did but the abuse is the same... I've asked those very questions myself...why me...why did this have to happen to me... I hope that you would still like to correspond... I better be going now... Kim