It is apalling but not surprising. It seems like so many people can only enjoy life and be happy if it is easy. Children certainly aren't easy! But they are joyful! When my children were young (4, 3, 2yrs., & 2 mos) I had three in diapers and I washed them myself for quite a while. That certainly wasn't easy. My youngest was born with arthrogryposis and will always be in an electric wheelchair and need physical help. This isn't easy but I wouldn't be happier without him. My children are teenagers now (20, 19, 18 & 16) and they still aren't easy even though two of them no longer live at home. The years between 14 and 19 seem to be the most insane. Having difficult times can pull a marriage apart or it can pull it together and teenagers have been known to do both. Thankfully, my husband and I were pulled together even though it wasn't easy. We look forward to the time when we can do things more often as a couple but who could possibly not miss the times when all the family lived under the same roof and all the shared memories? We have gone through bad times and horrible times, we've also been through good and wonderful times. How can you get rid of the challenges and still hold onto the good? Even though there have been times when I wanted to give up and run away from responsibility I'm am thankful beyond words for the blessing of being a mother. I look forward to the joy of being a grandmother and holding the children of my children in my arms. Hopefully it isn't to many years in the future. I'm a newcomer into this group and am enjoying it very much. I wonder if anyone can answer this question. When I lived in California the bishop of the ward had a poster on his office wall that said "We are not Human Beings having a spiritual experience, we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience." I realy love this! Does anybody know where it came from and/or who said it? Thanks. Candye (CandaceAnn)