Dear Sisters, I feel very terrible about the way that this whole thread turned out. I was just very upset by what my mother in law had said and I just needed to air out my feelings. Here are my thoughts on a few things. Alot of times my husband and I will get into an argument about who knows what. And after the whole thing is over with I will wonder how some little thing could have caused such a uprising in our home. It could be the checkbook, the phone ringing during dinner for the 12 th time, or any number of things. After I have had time to think about it and cool down I will ask him why he blew up and 9 times out of 10 it had nothing to do with what the argument was even about. It usually is from some stress at work and I am just the easiest person to take it out on. I think alot of times we blame our children for alot of our stress and misery , but if we were to take a closer look we would see differently. I have learned that with all the advice you all have given me about my little angel terror that she is really no different from any other 20 month old. That gave me hope. Here is what I have come to realize. About 5 years ago my husband and I had a fight. I cried for three days in a row. I was miserable. I sat around sulking and being a real [email protected]#$!#$%@#. It was a real waste of three days. About 5 days ago my husband and I had a fight. I did not cry, I was angry with him, but not miserable. I did not have time to sulk because of my daughter, and I certainly did not have time to sit around to sulk. As a matter of fact, less than ten minutes after the fight I was laughing at something my daughter did and so was my husband. By the end of the night I don't think I even remembered we had fought about something. I think my daughter puts my life into perspective. I think she makes me realize that many people have it alot worse than we do. Look at my sister for example. I now try to live each day that I will have no regrets. I try to enjoy her and my husband even when I am not feeling like it. I don't know if society has become so material that people just don't cherish the small things anymore. I had the oppourtunity this summer to visit with an Amish family in their home in Lancaster PA. It was a very rare chance and I will probably never get to do it again. It taught me a very impotant lesson in life. One that I hope none of you will never forget. It does not matter if you make a millions dollars a year, what kind of car you drive or if you even have a car at all, or if you have a brand new dress for church or any of those things. As long as you put your family and God first he will see to it that you are happy. I now firmly believe in this. They had a what is called a generation house. In this home were both sets of grandparents, two parents, five out of eight of their married children, their wives, their children, and three of the unmarried children all living in this one home. As more family gets married and has children and as parents get older they just continue to build on to their home and add more and more rooms so that everyone can live together. They all chip in and do their chores , share cooking, and washing. They did not have much as far as material things, but they were happier than I think I have ever had a chance to experience. Maybe they know the real way that life is supposed to be. I will not apoligize to any of you for taking up so much of your time. I really needed to let out my feelings. I hope that we all kind find happiness in the simpler pleasures in life. For fear of starting another thread that might have another uproar I am afraid to ask to start this new thread. But I will anyway. What would be your happiest memory that you have had with your family. I know that going to the temple is probably at the top of everyones list, so let's make it the second happiest memory. Thanks for all you do for me. Kimmie