Listmembers, three folks have contacted me off-list about my lack of response to their efforts of helping with my posted dilemma of the moment. One of those folks pointed out that I have posted off and on but am two weeks behind in responses to email offers of help. One person told me of my arrogance and insulting ways. Let me say to all who read this list on regular basis: Our teenage granddaughter diappeared from home and did not let her parents know where she was where she was for weeks. To say the least, we have been frightened, heart-sick, distraught, worried, etc. Now that we know where she is, that she was not kidnapped or worse, things are calming down. And so am I. It should be noted that during these weeks, genealogy and computers have seldom been of interest. At our insistence, none of these facts regarding our minor granddaughter were published in any newspaper, so no further information will be found. IMHO, it is always sound advice to ask for explanation before jumping to conclusions. To those offended by my lack of response to their offers of help, sincere regrets; I did not intend to offend. When this next happens, when I am admonished/chastised off-list, I will contact the list administrator and rootsweb, provide names and emails of persons who contacted me off-list in order to vent. This is third time and it is ENOUGH. Fred, Sr.