Dear Fred, I have always found you to be very thankful and polite about any help offered. So do not fret too much about whoever or whatever. Grandchildren will come closer to causing nervous breakdowns than our own children. I can sympathize with you wholeheartedly. Thinking good thoughts for you and yours. Marilyn On Tue, Dec 6, 2011 at 4:45 PM, Fred, Sr. <gandydancer1@comcast.net> wrote: > Listmembers, three folks have contacted me off-list about my lack of > response to their efforts of helping with my posted dilemma of the moment. > One of those folks pointed out that I have posted off and on but am two > weeks behind in responses to email offers of help. One person told me of my > arrogance and insulting ways. > > Let me say to all who read this list on regular basis: Our teenage > granddaughter diappeared from home and did not let her parents know where > she was where she was for weeks. To say the least, we have been > frightened, > heart-sick, distraught, worried, etc. Now that we know where she is, that > she was not kidnapped or worse, things are calming down. And so am I. > > It should be noted that during these weeks, genealogy and computers have > seldom been of interest. > > At our insistence, none of these facts regarding our minor granddaughter > were published in any newspaper, so no further information will be found. > > IMHO, it is always sound advice to ask for explanation before jumping to > conclusions. > > To those offended by my lack of response to their offers of help, sincere > regrets; I did not intend to offend. > > When this next happens, when I am admonished/chastised off-list, I will > contact the list administrator and rootsweb, provide names and emails of > persons who contacted me off-list in order to vent. This is third time and > it is ENOUGH. > > Fred, Sr. > > > ******************** > > Gen-Newbie's website: > > http://www.rootsweb.com/~newbie/ > > > ------------------------------- > To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to > GEN-NEWBIE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the > quotes in the subject and the body of the message > -- "If you don't get outside every day, even for a minute, you have not appreciated what God has done. It makes you grateful for our surroundings, and it starts your day differently." Johnny Cash

Hi Fred, I was just telling my husband the other day what a wonderful gentlemen you are. I wouldn't fret over this type nonsense from others. For some it is simply too much to be kind. It's often their own unhappiness that causes this type of behavior. Just keep asking and most of us will be willing to help and do not expect you to always email back. I can relate with what you are going through. For three years my husband and I have been on a roller coaster with one of our dear grandchildren that is on drugs. For two years she has been on and off the streets. Thankfully, our love and patience are taking hold and she is finally getting treatment. Of course we don't think of the computer and other minor details when her life and our life is overturned. I don't think it's necessary to answer every email. If I were you I would just write each person in one email such as To: Marylyn, Yvonne, Fred, ect. and then your thanks. Your granddaughter will be in my prayers. Keep hoping and never give up. Just love her that is what she needs most. I worked with delinquent children for many years. I love our troubled youth they face so much garbage in our world today. My best wishes to you and your wife. Yvonne ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ On 12/6/2011 1:52 PM, marilyn E B wrote: > Dear Fred, > > I have always found you to be very thankful and polite about any help offered. So do not fret too much about whoever or whatever. > > Grandchildren will come closer to causing nervous breakdowns than our own children. I can sympathize with you wholeheartedly. hinking good thoughts for you and yours. > > Marilyn > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > On Tue, Dec 6, 2011 at 4:45 PM, Fred, Sr.<gandydancer1@comcast.net> wrote: Listmembers, three folks have contacted me off-list about my lack of response to their efforts of helping with my posted dilemma of the moment. One of those folks pointed out that I have posted off and on but am two weeks behind in responses to email offers of help. One person told me of my arrogance and insulting ways. Let me say to all who read this list on regular basis: Our teenage granddaughter diappeared from home and did not let her parents know where she was where she was for weeks. To say the least, we have been frightened, heart-sick, distraught, worried, etc. Now that we know where she is, that she was not kidnapped or worse, things are calming down. And so am I. It should be noted that during these weeks, genealogy and computers have seldom been of interest. At our insistence, none of these facts regarding our minor granddaughter were published in any newspaper, so no further information will be found. IMHO, it is always sound advice to ask for explanation before jumping to conclusions. To those offended by my lack of response to their offers of help, sincere regrets; I did not intend to offend. When this next happens, when I am admonished/chastised off-list, I will contact the list administrator and rootsweb, provide names and emails of persons who contacted me off-list in order to vent. This is third time and it is ENOUGH. Fred, Sr.

Yvonne, your post has offered hope and encouragement to my wife and me as well as our daughter and son-in-law. Thank you for the kind and gentle words and prayers. We add your granddaughter and your family to our prayers. Bless you for taking an interest in helping our troubled youth. Without folks such as yourself, more would be lost. Thank you very much for taking time to write such an encouraging letter. Fred, Sr. -----Original Message----- From: gen-newbie-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:gen-newbie-bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of Yvonne Strong Sent: Tuesday, December 06, 2011 7:01 PM To: gen-newbie@rootsweb.com Subject: Re: [GN] My lack of response to requested help Hi Fred, I was just telling my husband the other day what a wonderful gentlemen you are. I wouldn't fret over this type nonsense from others. For some it is simply too much to be kind. It's often their own unhappiness that causes this type of behavior. Just keep asking and most of us will be willing to help and do not expect you to always email back. I can relate with what you are going through. For three years my husband and I have been on a roller coaster with one of our dear grandchildren that is on drugs. For two years she has been on and off the streets. Thankfully, our love and patience are taking hold and she is finally getting treatment. Of course we don't think of the computer and other minor details when her life and our life is overturned. I don't think it's necessary to answer every email. If I were you I would just write each person in one email such as To: Marylyn, Yvonne, Fred, ect. and then your thanks. Your granddaughter will be in my prayers. Keep hoping and never give up. Just love her that is what she needs most. I worked with delinquent children for many years. I love our troubled youth they face so much garbage in our world today. My best wishes to you and your wife. Yvonne ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to GEN-NEWBIE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message

G'Day I have been following the comments closely. Fred, like you & Yvonne, we have had a recent situation like yours. My 16 year old granddaughter, has also gone 'walkabout'. Its a strange situation to be in, on the one hand they are too young to vote, they are still minors in the eyes of the law, yet, they can leave home, get governments young homeless allowance, and we as family can do nothing. We know she is still in the state but not where & with whom.We have one powerful tool on our side PRAYER & Faith In the time, I have been on this list, I have felt very humble at the caring concern and genuine need to help from many. It often feels like one big family to me. I Love Christmas, sadly, its a time when feelings are fully alive. Fred, I value & appreciate your kindness & courtesy. Hope all works out well Annette Aksenov

Marilyn, I sincerely thank you for taking time to express good wishes/thoughts for our family. Fred, Sr. And for the kind words about self. -----Original Message----- From: gen-newbie-bounces@rootsweb.com [mailto:gen-newbie-bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of marilyn E B Sent: Tuesday, December 06, 2011 4:53 PM To: gen-newbie@rootsweb.com Subject: Re: [GN] My lack of response to requested help Dear Fred, I have always found you to be very thankful and polite about any help offered. So do not fret too much about whoever or whatever. Grandchildren will come closer to causing nervous breakdowns than our own children. I can sympathize with you wholeheartedly. Thinking good thoughts for you and yours. Marilyn ------------------------------- To unsubscribe from the list, please send an email to GEN-NEWBIE-request@rootsweb.com with the word 'unsubscribe' without the quotes in the subject and the body of the message