I do so hope you don't put them together unless both wish to find the other. I'm adopted but have no interest in finding my birth parents- they are not my family. I have nothing against them; after all if it weren't for them giving me up, I wouldn't have been apart of MY family. I would not like them if they suddenly decided to show up in my life however. I did have a scare a couple of years ago when I recieved a letter in the mail but it turned out to be someone looking for someone else and had nothing to do with me. Trust me I wrote her a lengthy discourse on the matter. I hope it at least made her think before sending out another letter. As for names on Death certs. I remet a cousin on-line and when his mother (my great aunt) died they spelled the maiden name wrong (no one knew how to spell it). Now that we have found the rest of the family it seems that mispelling the surname seems to be a family tradition in and of itself. It looks like it stayed the same for 1 and a half generations only but, the pronounciation continued to drift which sent us off on other fruitless searches on every mispelling we could think of based on the one spelling or the other pronounciations. then we find it again through the in-laws with a spelling we never thought of but not too different from what we had. -------------------------------------------------------------- Hi Jill & All: Yes, good example.... and when my dad died, I wasn't exactly sure of some info either, but made sure I got it RIGHT so it would go on the certificate correctly. I am an Adoption Search Consultant (help adoptees & birthparents/families) to find each other, and that's one of the things I always tell people, when looking at someone's Death Certificate: FIND OUT WHO THE 'INFORMANT' was because they are most likely 'next of kin', but the info given on the Cert. if going to be from the informant's MEMORY (right or wrong!) .... *Tina*

rrraye : Sorry to hear you had a negative experience. I dont want to use this genealogy list to discuss adoption related experiences/discussions, but wanted to make something clear: The majority of birthmothers *and* adoptees who are "found" (98%) DO want to be found, and have a positive reunion. And of course, no one can put people together who do not want to be reunited. I was just using it as an example..... If anyone has adoption - related comments or questions, please feel free to email me privately ... thanks for understanding .... *Tina* List Mgr. *********************************************** *********************************************** ----- Original Message ----- From: "rrraye" <[email protected]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Friday, August 08, 2003 7:25 PM Subject: Re:[GAWILKIN-L] adoptees and death certs mistakes > I do so hope you don't put them together unless both wish to find the other. I'm adopted but have no interest in finding my birth parents- they are not my family. I have nothing against them; after all if it weren't for them giving me up, I wouldn't have been apart of MY family. I would not like them if they suddenly decided to show up in my life however. I did have a scare a couple of years ago when I recieved a letter in the mail but it turned out to be someone looking for someone else and had nothing to do with me. Trust me I wrote her a lengthy discourse on the matter. I hope it at least made her think before sending out another letter. > > As for names on Death certs. I remet a cousin on-line and when his mother (my great aunt) died they spelled the maiden name wrong (no one knew how to spell it). Now that we have found the rest of the family it seems that mispelling the surname seems to be a family tradition in and of itself. It looks like it stayed the same for 1 and a half generations only but, the pronounciation continued to drift which sent us off on other fruitless searches on every mispelling we could think of based on the one spelling or the other pronounciations. then we find it again through the in-laws with a spelling we never thought of but not too different from what we had. > -------------------------------------------------------------- > Hi Jill & All: > Yes, good example.... and when my dad died, I wasn't exactly sure of some info either, but made sure I got it RIGHT so it would go on the certificate correctly. > I am an Adoption Search Consultant (help adoptees & birthparents/families) to find each other, and that's one of the things I always tell people, when looking at someone's Death Certificate: FIND OUT WHO THE 'INFORMANT' was because they are most likely 'next of kin', but the info given on the Cert. if going to be from the informant's MEMORY (right or wrong!) .... > *Tina* > > > ==== GAWILKIN Mailing List ==== > *Don't forget to visit the WILKINSON CO. > *RESOURCE* Page: > http://resources.rootsweb.com/USA/GA/Wilkinson/ > >