Hi, Sherry and everyone, You will note, Sherry, that I am sending a copy of my replies (this is part one of four or more) to the Bulloch County, Georgia and Bryan County, Georgia genealogy lists so that the maximum number of those affected will be notified. You emailed me on June 7th that I had submitted your Bell family data to LDS without your permission. My first reaction was an honest one. I said I did not do that, and I thought I was correct in saying that. As you know, my mother-in-law died (an awful fight with brain cancer) the day after you emailed me, and I said I would get back to you after I had finished my obligations and mourning surrounding her death. I have now caught up with my email and will answer as promised. I thought you were mistaken since I "knew" I had not submitted your data. I was wrong. I have two genealogy files on my computer. One with information no one has a problem with being public and a second one that also contains (1) your working data and (2) my husband's uncle's (his mother's brother's) family data which is complete but which he never wants to be made public, even to other close family (he feels everyone should have to go through the research independently without help, that hard work will do them good). In the second file, I also put theories, speculations, anything to research further. Well, I goofed big time. I submitted the wrong file. (I am still trying to understand how I could have made such a blunder.) I must, therefore, apologize to you and to my husband's uncle. ( I confess that with my husband's uncle I may wait a few more weeks to tell him since he is devastated by my mother-in-law's--his sister's--death.) I will check again, but even my second file should credit you with all the research. I want to preserve, not take credit for, your research. For some of the data (the Shivers Swamp story, for example), you should also see my late grandmother, Nevada McClelland Bell, credited, as well as the Georgia Archives. Hopefully, in contacting the Bulloch and Bryan lists, everyone will be clear the research is yours. (Let me know who else you want me to contact.) Hopefully, you will believe my sincere apology and that I made a real--if horribly painful--mistake in submitting your working data to LDS. I hope you will check to see that even though it should not be there at all, that you are credited with the work. Someday I hope you will submit your finished data since it will be more complete and obviously the ultimate research on the Bells. Thanks, Sharlotte Kathleen Bridgette Neely Donnelly [email protected] [email protected] wrote: > Sharlotte, > Our hearts and prayers have been with you and Tom since the moment that we > were notified about Tom's mother. We have been where you are right now and > the pain of loss is more intense than physical pain. > I'm not an insensitive person, on the contrary......................... > You don't really know me, nor I you, however in reading your NKU website, we > share many of the same beliefs, concerns and with intensity, whether serious > or humorous. That intensity is what triggered my reaction to seeing my > mother's words in, LDS profile of facts, and that same intensity was > reflected in your response and reference to my "more important" concerns, in > your email to all of us, who are aware of your family's grief. So you see, > we really aren't so different. > The data is public record, but, my "heartstopping fear" was that "my words" > would be exposed to the world, private words, only meant for family. I > needed reassurance that wasn't happening. Having said that, I won't > apologize for who I am and what I feel, or for reacting. > You, Tom and Bridgette are part of our family and I love and care about you. > May you draw on that love in the painful days to come. > > Sherry