In a message dated 03/08/2008 08:17:52 GMT Standard Time, david.turnidge@virgin.net writes: If we are not prepared to view what is under the stone we shouldn't lift it. What a brilliant quote! I like it! I recently got 2 sets of family together which led to one set (they lost their parents when children) searching through paperwork kept by the other set when the 2 sets of parents died. 3 letters were found, the content of which which upset and disturbed them. However, I gently advised that they should take into account that out of hundreds of possibly 'good' letters only the 3 disturbing ones had been kept for some reason and therefore shouldn't be taken too seriously, and that they should look positively at the outcome and be thankful that at last they had something tangible to look at and keep that came directly from their parents. After a few days of upset, I think this is indeed what they chose to do. Referring back to my great grandmother and her 'crime' I was pleased to have found the newspaper reports as rather than having a family tree with just names and dates on, I now have a much fuller picture of my family members and what they were like, and realise that people in those days were 'human' and just as vulnerable to the events in life as we are today. Diana